BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
Might be over thinking, I'm just curious, what's your take on sending one or two funny/friendly texts the day after the date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
question about texting after a date
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SweetDannyJ
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For me. I don't. Not right away. I tell her if I enjoyed myself at the end of the date, or I say nothing. I don't leave her guessing if I enjoyed the date, only if I like her or not. You achieve that by letting her know you had fun, and not texting her right after like a puppy. What do you think she is doing every hour you are not texting her? Thinking about you and why you're not texting her!
Give it more like 4-5 days and do not bring up the past date in your text. Especially if you think a funny joke would be bringing up something you guys talked about on the first date like "Hey Jane, it's Tarzan" or some stupid crap like that. Just don't do it. Be a forward thinker. Save that for the next date, in person, and after rapport is strong enough to not seem like you're reaching for a connection.
Tip: Never think "I would like if she did it to me". You could have a higher IL than her. Short circuit yourself in a hurry. Only think about where her IL might be, and if what you're about to do will raise it, or lower it. If you can't put your finger on her level, do the opposite of what you think you should do. By that, i mean do nothing
Give it more like 4-5 days and do not bring up the past date in your text. Especially if you think a funny joke would be bringing up something you guys talked about on the first date like "Hey Jane, it's Tarzan" or some stupid crap like that. Just don't do it. Be a forward thinker. Save that for the next date, in person, and after rapport is strong enough to not seem like you're reaching for a connection.
Tip: Never think "I would like if she did it to me". You could have a higher IL than her. Short circuit yourself in a hurry. Only think about where her IL might be, and if what you're about to do will raise it, or lower it. If you can't put your finger on her level, do the opposite of what you think you should do. By that, i mean do nothing
iliketennis
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to me, you sending her messages like that is the same as asking her "Did you like our date? I want you to reassure me that you like me."
TheAsianLoverReturns
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Send her a text the next day telling her you had a nice time.
If she replies, then make plans for the next time. If not, then delete her number.
If she replies, then make plans for the next time. If not, then delete her number.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
ok, but what if she's the one that texts me first, basically saying she's bruised up (played soccer) and asking if I'm seeing a mutual friend (girl)?
texting isn't my strength :/
texting isn't my strength :/
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Keep your texting short and lighthearted. Do NOT get sucked into a texting conversation. When you text a girl, it should be flirtatious, fun, sometimes even a little bit sexual.BannedGod said:
When it seems like she wants to keep texting you, push for a meet-up. That will either get you with her where you can game her IN PERSON, or she'll stop texting you.
Remember...texting should eventually almost always lead to setting up a date.