BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
Might be over thinking, I'm just curious, what's your take on sending one or two funny/friendly texts the day after the date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
question about texting after a date
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
SweetDannyJ
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For me. I don't. Not right away. I tell her if I enjoyed myself at the end of the date, or I say nothing. I don't leave her guessing if I enjoyed the date, only if I like her or not. You achieve that by letting her know you had fun, and not texting her right after like a puppy. What do you think she is doing every hour you are not texting her? Thinking about you and why you're not texting her!
Give it more like 4-5 days and do not bring up the past date in your text. Especially if you think a funny joke would be bringing up something you guys talked about on the first date like "Hey Jane, it's Tarzan" or some stupid crap like that. Just don't do it. Be a forward thinker. Save that for the next date, in person, and after rapport is strong enough to not seem like you're reaching for a connection.
Tip: Never think "I would like if she did it to me". You could have a higher IL than her. Short circuit yourself in a hurry. Only think about where her IL might be, and if what you're about to do will raise it, or lower it. If you can't put your finger on her level, do the opposite of what you think you should do. By that, i mean do nothing
Give it more like 4-5 days and do not bring up the past date in your text. Especially if you think a funny joke would be bringing up something you guys talked about on the first date like "Hey Jane, it's Tarzan" or some stupid crap like that. Just don't do it. Be a forward thinker. Save that for the next date, in person, and after rapport is strong enough to not seem like you're reaching for a connection.
Tip: Never think "I would like if she did it to me". You could have a higher IL than her. Short circuit yourself in a hurry. Only think about where her IL might be, and if what you're about to do will raise it, or lower it. If you can't put your finger on her level, do the opposite of what you think you should do. By that, i mean do nothing
iliketennis
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to me, you sending her messages like that is the same as asking her "Did you like our date? I want you to reassure me that you like me."
TheAsianLoverReturns
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Send her a text the next day telling her you had a nice time.
If she replies, then make plans for the next time. If not, then delete her number.
If she replies, then make plans for the next time. If not, then delete her number.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
ok, but what if she's the one that texts me first, basically saying she's bruised up (played soccer) and asking if I'm seeing a mutual friend (girl)?
texting isn't my strength :/
texting isn't my strength :/
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Keep your texting short and lighthearted. Do NOT get sucked into a texting conversation. When you text a girl, it should be flirtatious, fun, sometimes even a little bit sexual.BannedGod said:
When it seems like she wants to keep texting you, push for a meet-up. That will either get you with her where you can game her IN PERSON, or she'll stop texting you.
Remember...texting should eventually almost always lead to setting up a date.