BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
Might be over thinking, I'm just curious, what's your take on sending one or two funny/friendly texts the day after the date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
question about texting after a date
- Thread starter BannedGod
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SweetDannyJ
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For me. I don't. Not right away. I tell her if I enjoyed myself at the end of the date, or I say nothing. I don't leave her guessing if I enjoyed the date, only if I like her or not. You achieve that by letting her know you had fun, and not texting her right after like a puppy. What do you think she is doing every hour you are not texting her? Thinking about you and why you're not texting her!
Give it more like 4-5 days and do not bring up the past date in your text. Especially if you think a funny joke would be bringing up something you guys talked about on the first date like "Hey Jane, it's Tarzan" or some stupid crap like that. Just don't do it. Be a forward thinker. Save that for the next date, in person, and after rapport is strong enough to not seem like you're reaching for a connection.
Tip: Never think "I would like if she did it to me". You could have a higher IL than her. Short circuit yourself in a hurry. Only think about where her IL might be, and if what you're about to do will raise it, or lower it. If you can't put your finger on her level, do the opposite of what you think you should do. By that, i mean do nothing
Give it more like 4-5 days and do not bring up the past date in your text. Especially if you think a funny joke would be bringing up something you guys talked about on the first date like "Hey Jane, it's Tarzan" or some stupid crap like that. Just don't do it. Be a forward thinker. Save that for the next date, in person, and after rapport is strong enough to not seem like you're reaching for a connection.
Tip: Never think "I would like if she did it to me". You could have a higher IL than her. Short circuit yourself in a hurry. Only think about where her IL might be, and if what you're about to do will raise it, or lower it. If you can't put your finger on her level, do the opposite of what you think you should do. By that, i mean do nothing
iliketennis
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to me, you sending her messages like that is the same as asking her "Did you like our date? I want you to reassure me that you like me."
TheAsianLoverReturns
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Send her a text the next day telling her you had a nice time.
If she replies, then make plans for the next time. If not, then delete her number.
If she replies, then make plans for the next time. If not, then delete her number.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
ok, but what if she's the one that texts me first, basically saying she's bruised up (played soccer) and asking if I'm seeing a mutual friend (girl)?
texting isn't my strength :/
texting isn't my strength :/
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Keep your texting short and lighthearted. Do NOT get sucked into a texting conversation. When you text a girl, it should be flirtatious, fun, sometimes even a little bit sexual.BannedGod said:
When it seems like she wants to keep texting you, push for a meet-up. That will either get you with her where you can game her IN PERSON, or she'll stop texting you.
Remember...texting should eventually almost always lead to setting up a date.