Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Question about text compliment

zinc64

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I went on one date with this Thai girl two weeks ago and have occasionally talk to her on the phone since then and am thinkign about asking her out this weekend. She has told me she is only interested in a long term relationship and wants to get to know the person before any physical intimacy as she has been burned in the past.

So we were talk,ing the other night and she told me how a UPS driver was late with her package and called her retarded because he couldn't understand her accent on the phone and she would have to pick up the package the next day at UPS center.

I texted her today saying, hey, I say a UPS truck today and thought about you. Did you ever get that package?

She immediately responded with, lol, when I see ups truck, i will look at driver who might be that guy. i still upset with that. i got my package yesterday.

So I waited about 20 minutes and responded with, lol, you are too cute to scare anyone. No response and it's been over 40 mins. Do I have anyhting to worry about?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kailex

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zinc64 said:
I went on one date with this Thai girl two weeks ago and have occasionally talk to her on the phone since then and am thinkign about asking her out this weekend. She has told me she is only interested in a long term relationship and wants to get to know the person before any physical intimacy as she has been burned in the past.

So we were talk,ing the other night and she told me how a UPS driver was late with her package and called her retarded because he couldn't understand her accent on the phone and she would have to pick up the package the next day at UPS center.

I texted her today saying, hey, I say a UPS truck today and thought about you. Did you ever get that package?

She immediately responded with, lol, when I see ups truck, i will look at driver who might be that guy. i still upset with that. i got my package yesterday.

So I waited about 20 minutes and responded with, lol, you are too cute to scare anyone. No response and it's been over 40 mins. Do I have anyhting to worry about?

In before Iceberg. (I think)

Okay, right now, I just want to scream.
We really need to set up a thread about Men & Texting and WHEN they should do it and WHEN it's just filler... because ALL the time, questions about texts...

Look... just be glad she responded the first time.

Second, stop complimenting her over text message.
What else did you want her to add to that comment of yours:

"Oooooh, thank you, let's have sex tonight kkkk?"

Just call her and set up a date and stop texting. Whatever you need to say to her, say face to face or in that quick phone call while you are setting up a date.

I just worry about men and why they feel the need to text... because if they don't get texted back, they feel like the world is going to end. And stop looking at your watch to see how long has passed since the last message.

You're a MAN. Aren't you supposed to be busy doing manly stuff and worrying about the one girl.


And before someone else says it for you and decides to waste a post on saying it:

Spin more plates.
Hit the gym. :yes:

And stop worrying about silly things. Women worry.
 

Forty0ztoFreedom

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That text doesn't warrant a response really. She could have liked it, or not. Your only choice is to forget about it.

And did you really give a f*ck about her package?
 

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Well, ordinarily, it wouldn't be that much of a big deal, but I'm trying to get over a divorce and am feeling kind of ****ed up from it. Like I need something to get over it or something. Was spinning some plates but two of them weren't attractive enough and the other flaked out. Met a new chic at the mall the other day, but not sure what will come of it. For some reason, I am keen on the Thai chick as she seems to have a lot of morals.
 

zinc64

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i kind of wondered about the package just to see if she ever met the driver face to face or not to see how she reacted
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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zinc64

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it seems like there i nothing wrong with short text messages...phone convo can be a lot of work and she likes to talk a lot about herself...maybe i am just lazy
 

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Well, try sending her lots of text messages and showing her that you are lazy and come back and tell us how that worked out for you to build attraction with her. I mean this could be ground breaking and turn everything upside down with how people on this forum think attraction works.
 
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