"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Question about text compliment

zinc64

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I went on one date with this Thai girl two weeks ago and have occasionally talk to her on the phone since then and am thinkign about asking her out this weekend. She has told me she is only interested in a long term relationship and wants to get to know the person before any physical intimacy as she has been burned in the past.

So we were talk,ing the other night and she told me how a UPS driver was late with her package and called her retarded because he couldn't understand her accent on the phone and she would have to pick up the package the next day at UPS center.

I texted her today saying, hey, I say a UPS truck today and thought about you. Did you ever get that package?

She immediately responded with, lol, when I see ups truck, i will look at driver who might be that guy. i still upset with that. i got my package yesterday.

So I waited about 20 minutes and responded with, lol, you are too cute to scare anyone. No response and it's been over 40 mins. Do I have anyhting to worry about?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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zinc64 said:
I went on one date with this Thai girl two weeks ago and have occasionally talk to her on the phone since then and am thinkign about asking her out this weekend. She has told me she is only interested in a long term relationship and wants to get to know the person before any physical intimacy as she has been burned in the past.

So we were talk,ing the other night and she told me how a UPS driver was late with her package and called her retarded because he couldn't understand her accent on the phone and she would have to pick up the package the next day at UPS center.

I texted her today saying, hey, I say a UPS truck today and thought about you. Did you ever get that package?

She immediately responded with, lol, when I see ups truck, i will look at driver who might be that guy. i still upset with that. i got my package yesterday.

So I waited about 20 minutes and responded with, lol, you are too cute to scare anyone. No response and it's been over 40 mins. Do I have anyhting to worry about?

In before Iceberg. (I think)

Okay, right now, I just want to scream.
We really need to set up a thread about Men & Texting and WHEN they should do it and WHEN it's just filler... because ALL the time, questions about texts...

Look... just be glad she responded the first time.

Second, stop complimenting her over text message.
What else did you want her to add to that comment of yours:

"Oooooh, thank you, let's have sex tonight kkkk?"

Just call her and set up a date and stop texting. Whatever you need to say to her, say face to face or in that quick phone call while you are setting up a date.

I just worry about men and why they feel the need to text... because if they don't get texted back, they feel like the world is going to end. And stop looking at your watch to see how long has passed since the last message.

You're a MAN. Aren't you supposed to be busy doing manly stuff and worrying about the one girl.


And before someone else says it for you and decides to waste a post on saying it:

Spin more plates.
Hit the gym. :yes:

And stop worrying about silly things. Women worry.
 

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That text doesn't warrant a response really. She could have liked it, or not. Your only choice is to forget about it.

And did you really give a f*ck about her package?
 

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Well, ordinarily, it wouldn't be that much of a big deal, but I'm trying to get over a divorce and am feeling kind of ****ed up from it. Like I need something to get over it or something. Was spinning some plates but two of them weren't attractive enough and the other flaked out. Met a new chic at the mall the other day, but not sure what will come of it. For some reason, I am keen on the Thai chick as she seems to have a lot of morals.
 

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i kind of wondered about the package just to see if she ever met the driver face to face or not to see how she reacted
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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it seems like there i nothing wrong with short text messages...phone convo can be a lot of work and she likes to talk a lot about herself...maybe i am just lazy
 

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Well, try sending her lots of text messages and showing her that you are lazy and come back and tell us how that worked out for you to build attraction with her. I mean this could be ground breaking and turn everything upside down with how people on this forum think attraction works.
 
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