dustmuffin
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If a girl asks you to do a chore, I know enough not to do it. But what if I ask that she be involved? Is that OK? What would be the best way to go about it?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Question about Servant friend ye be...
- Thread starter dustmuffin
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
zekko
Master Don Juan
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There's nothing wrong with doing a favor for a friend, or even a lover. Like maybe if it's something you can help with that she can't do herself. It depends totally on the context of the situation. You can be a helpful person without becoming a doormat. It's like if you hold the door for a stranger, have you suddenly become a beta? What should you do, slam it in their face?
SMH. This place seems determined to churn out a bunch of selfish pr!cks lately. I don't get it. Where's Atom Smasher, he used to bring a sense of balance to this place.
SMH. This place seems determined to churn out a bunch of selfish pr!cks lately. I don't get it. Where's Atom Smasher, he used to bring a sense of balance to this place.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
He's baaaack.....