"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question about meeting a chick from online

SpeedRunner

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Hey, I only have one question... right now Im taking on the online front and i have met a few girls thanks to personals. And I have one girl that i have been doing really well with her(no problems) but when I ask to meet her in real life, she says she is gonna be doing exams and working alot so she cant. but she says she would if she could, but doesnt want to mess with her boss.

is this something I should be concerned about? or should i just wait a couple weeks and see if she really gets time?

i've honestly never met someone from online so this is gonna be new for me
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ER!C L!VE

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Meh, don't put that much time in with a girl who won't meet with you in real life.

She's enjoying the attention you're giving her. That's about all she wants from you.

There are plenty of girls on the net who wanna meet up and bang, just keep searching.

Unless you're looking for 'the one', then I can't help ya :p
 

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Word to what Eric said. She's playin you. Drop her completely and move on.
 

SpeedRunner

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uhh... how can she be playing me? i havent said a single complement to her. i have acted like the big catch the whole time. and she has been tryng to work for my approval. i have been doing c/f and neghits cause thats all i can do. i honestly dont see how just letting her talk to me would be that much of a boost for her. plus she said she was shy.

im confused now
 

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When was the last time you told a girl you couldn't meet her, because of exams or work? I'd say that you never have. If she was interested in you she would have never made any lame excuses. Don't believe the hype and NEXT her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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How long have this been going on? If it's been a long time and you still haven't even met, forget about her and move on.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by SpeedRunner
uhh... how can she be playing me? i havent said a single complement to her. i have acted like the big catch the whole time. and she has been tryng to work for my approval. i have been doing c/f and neghits cause thats all i can do. i honestly dont see how just letting her talk to me would be that much of a boost for her. plus she said she was shy.

im confused now
She's playing you because you are still giving her something, attention. Do you want to find out if she's really into you? Stop giving her ANY attention for at least a couple of weeks. If she's really into you, she'll let you know. Other than that, put her on the back burner and focus your efforts elsewhere so as to not obsess over her.
 

SpeedRunner

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I've had 3 total conversations with her.

only 3.

thanks for pointing this out, fellow dj's.

i'll talk to her just ONCE more and NEXT!!! if she doesnt want to meet.

speed doesnt get played :)
 

saki

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good advise, I suggest you take it and NEXT!! if the girls dont write me back online after I have done my opening, there gone, low IL
 

DeathDealer

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This is how it works guys:

1. You show attention and you see how much attention she gives you. It should always be EQUAL OR GREATER.

Why greater? Cause guys do more work than girls do overall (pay the dinner bill, pick her up, etc)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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