"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Question about meeting a chick from online

SpeedRunner

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Hey, I only have one question... right now Im taking on the online front and i have met a few girls thanks to personals. And I have one girl that i have been doing really well with her(no problems) but when I ask to meet her in real life, she says she is gonna be doing exams and working alot so she cant. but she says she would if she could, but doesnt want to mess with her boss.

is this something I should be concerned about? or should i just wait a couple weeks and see if she really gets time?

i've honestly never met someone from online so this is gonna be new for me
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ER!C L!VE

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Meh, don't put that much time in with a girl who won't meet with you in real life.

She's enjoying the attention you're giving her. That's about all she wants from you.

There are plenty of girls on the net who wanna meet up and bang, just keep searching.

Unless you're looking for 'the one', then I can't help ya :p
 

Soma

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Word to what Eric said. She's playin you. Drop her completely and move on.
 

SpeedRunner

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uhh... how can she be playing me? i havent said a single complement to her. i have acted like the big catch the whole time. and she has been tryng to work for my approval. i have been doing c/f and neghits cause thats all i can do. i honestly dont see how just letting her talk to me would be that much of a boost for her. plus she said she was shy.

im confused now
 

urbanwhite

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When was the last time you told a girl you couldn't meet her, because of exams or work? I'd say that you never have. If she was interested in you she would have never made any lame excuses. Don't believe the hype and NEXT her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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How long have this been going on? If it's been a long time and you still haven't even met, forget about her and move on.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by SpeedRunner
uhh... how can she be playing me? i havent said a single complement to her. i have acted like the big catch the whole time. and she has been tryng to work for my approval. i have been doing c/f and neghits cause thats all i can do. i honestly dont see how just letting her talk to me would be that much of a boost for her. plus she said she was shy.

im confused now
She's playing you because you are still giving her something, attention. Do you want to find out if she's really into you? Stop giving her ANY attention for at least a couple of weeks. If she's really into you, she'll let you know. Other than that, put her on the back burner and focus your efforts elsewhere so as to not obsess over her.
 

SpeedRunner

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I've had 3 total conversations with her.

only 3.

thanks for pointing this out, fellow dj's.

i'll talk to her just ONCE more and NEXT!!! if she doesnt want to meet.

speed doesnt get played :)
 

saki

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good advise, I suggest you take it and NEXT!! if the girls dont write me back online after I have done my opening, there gone, low IL
 

DeathDealer

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This is how it works guys:

1. You show attention and you see how much attention she gives you. It should always be EQUAL OR GREATER.

Why greater? Cause guys do more work than girls do overall (pay the dinner bill, pick her up, etc)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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