Question about love

[Hammer79]

You know how they say love will happen when you least expect it. That has me confused. If love happens when we least expect it, then what is the point of us being the persuers? Love happens when you least expect it but us men have ask the women out, doesn't that point away from it happening when we least expect it? Can someone please explain that to me?

 

[Jeffst1980]

The answer is that it's just a silly statement that takes advantage of our anthropocentric tendencies. Everyone wants to have a story, and unexpected love is a much better story that "well, I was running Mystery Method on this two set..."

 

[Black Dog]

The answer is that it's just a silly statement that takes advantage of our anthropocentric tendencies. Everyone wants to have a story, and unexpected love is a much better story that "well, I was running Mystery Method on this two set..."

Hahaha.

The way I see it "love" is a gradual feeling, that will take over when you're too immersed in it to notice--similar to how a baby grows up I guess? That's the only analogy I think of at the moment. It was building all along but you don't realize it until there's a big noticable change there....


....I totally stole that from George Harrison's interview on how The Beatles broke up...

 

[jophil28]

You know how they say love will happen when you least expect it.

"They" say a lot of things that are either myths or comforting delusions.

MY alltime favorite popular hallucination is , " The badazz's and jerks get all the hot women."

The next time you see one of those guys on his Harley, take notice of who is sitting in behind him. Do you see some model gorgeous babe with hair blowing in the wind ?

:crackup:

 

[Jitterbug]

"Love will happen when you least expect it."

That's what they tell chicks, because for them, things magically happen, when in reality, it's the result of men training, planning, plotting, scheming and generally working their arses off.

MY alltime favorite popular hallucination is , " The badazz's and jerks get all the hot women."

The next time you see one of these guys on his Harley, take notice of who is sitting in behind him. Do you see some model gorgeous babe with hair blowing in the wind ?

Usually it's just his fat arse, or sometimes his equally fat girlfriend.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If love happens when we least expect it, then what is the point of us being the pursuers?


You're supposed to pursue sex, not love. The latter is an unfortunate side effect of the former.

 

[SoldMySoul]

If love happens when we least expect it, then what is the point of us being the pursuers?


You're supposed to pursue sex, not love. The latter is an unfortunate side effect of the former.

I like this and shall use it as a burning flame!!! However, I do love the woman that say, "You only want to have sex with me." I am starting to re think this too!!! If they provide more than sex, I am open to beneficial suggestions.

 

[Kailex]

Love is a myth, basically a bear trap laid by women decorated with promises of sex and stability.

 

[zekko]

You know how they say love will happen when you least expect it.

I think there's some truth to that, actually. I would modify it as to say love OFTEN happens when you least expect it. I wouldn't call it a hard and fast rule.

For example, I've had women fall in love with me when I wasn't really paying attention to them. I wasn't trying for them, so obviously it was unexpected. When you're not trying, you're being yourself, and that can be attractive. So I think that's where the saying comes from.

MY alltime favorite popular hallucination is , " The badazz's and jerks get all the hot women."

THANK YOU for pointing that out. This myth is heavily perpetuated by this website, and other pickup gurus. It's true that women often fall for the bad boy, but it's also true that women are attracted to a variety of different kinds of men. You don't have to squeeze yourself into someone's idea of a stereotype to get women.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

In men, I believe the feeling of "love" is the tipping point when a shyteload of hormones and unconscious and evolutionarily programmed survival strategies are fired off all at once, continuously, as a result of continued sexual intimacy with someone who happens to satisfy our various unconscious desires and needs.

Don't let my cold biological description fool you. It is the best (or perhaps one of the best) possible feeling to experience.

Nevertheless, it is programmed into us by evolution so that our ancestors didn't get a bunch of cave-women pregnant and then split the scene. Not only for child rearing, pair bonding has a dramatic effect when you consider the increased productivity due to the resultant sexual division of labor.

Since most of it is unconscious, you're not sure when somebody you hook up with is going to give you "that" feeling.

Keep in mind that the creation of "that" feeling happened when people lived in tribes of about 200 or so, so the options were fairly limitied.

Now you pass by 200 different people in the course of an hour or so in your daily life, so the chances of meeting somebody that could potentially give you you "that" feeling is much higher than 10K years ago.

The best way to minimize the randomness (and gain more control) is to do what was suggested over the Oracle at Delphi:

Man: Know Thyself.

If you know your needs, conscious and unconscious, your criteria, it's only a matter of sorting and qualifying.

The process is more complex and cerebral, but the resultant feelings are just as nice.