"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jookins

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if i see a girl i know, even just barely, lets say in a mall, and she's facing the othr direction and isnt aware of my presence, is it too much to walk over and rather pat her shoulder, but instead give her hip a squeeze. would she get weirded out? is that too much?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jookins

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i think it would be good, because everyone else pats the shoulder, its closer and unique, i just want to know the opinion of you guys
 

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It depends on how you pull it off. It also depends on the girl.

If she's shy/serious and you don't know her very well and you sneak up on her, you might creep her out.

If on the other hand she's outgoing and you've previously established some rapport, then it should be okay.

Just make sure you do it in a friendly, light-hearted manner. Creepiness is obviously a bad thing.
 

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Try it, let us know what happens.
 
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