"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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yes, u say what do i do about this 4 year old girl who turned 5 and now has a love for eating worms.Originally posted by i am me
lol okkk....how else was i supposed to say it?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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1. That is certainly not the way to get a decent answer. Grammar is a good start, for example.Originally posted by i am me
or i could say: yall are a bunch of fags and I just wanna know if this situation is worth my time
2. It is not worth your time, but then again -- if you have the time to call me a fag on the internet... perhaps your time isn't as valuable as one might imagine.
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find her when shes eating lunch or something and just say hi and start talking to her. important though is to try to quickly return to whatever level you were at with her eg kino, joking etc. but dont overdo it, you'll scare her offOriginally posted by i am me
In my freshman year, there was this girl who liked me but didn't like her that way. Now, I'm a sophomore and I like her but she don't like me that way. Is there anyway to bring her back my way?