"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Question about DJs character

frank05

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I know that confidence and high self-esteem is the key to success, but something bothers me:
Basically, what is more attractive, the mysterious and quiet guy, or the funny and talkative guy?
I think of positive and negative things to each one:

@Funny/Talkative:
+ Makes friends easily,is very social,is the center of attention,outgoing,unpredictable,****y and funny,energetic

-Can come off as trying hard and insecure,sometimes as goofy and immature,often isn't taken seriously,being the center of attention/outgoing costs a lot of energy

@Mysterious/Quiet:
+ Mysterious=Attractive, has more time listen/think what to say and then make it count,is taken seriously and is always respected,mature,doesn't have the need to be the center of attention,can't come off as trying hard.

- If he is too quiet,he will come off as boring and average and won't attract any girl(unless he is very good looking),gets to know less people and thus less girls.He could easily intimidate people and it could be more difficult to him to build rapport with girls.

I have tried to figure out a balance of both, but both characters seem very different to me.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Chemistry

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LOL @ Mysterious = Attractive...

It's about having all attributes at your disposal and links in somewhat with the charisma thread...

You need to be funny and how to crack a joke, but the skill is knowing when the situation requires it, and when to pass up a smaller opportunity to crack that one big joke so that you don't look like a jester!

Be talkative... if you're sat in a room, and you want to talk with a HB9 sat next to you then pick up a conversation... but then know when to be quiet, and know that there's no need to broadcast your life to everyone... have those quiet moments which convey that mystery

I've always mixed the above... I much rather choose to sit there, with a surity and wait for a point in a conversation or a situation to arise which means I can enter with something of value...
 

Lifeforce

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It's not really which one of those who are most attractive, it's about that those different characters will have different women interested. The real question is what YOU want to be. No matter what you do there will be women who are interested in you.
 

skeeloo

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i fall greatly in the quiet and mysterious its natural . not faked many many girls are attracted to me though but sometimes i wish i was more outgoing and loud.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Waking Up

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Talk whenever you want. If you're not forcing it and it's not contrived and you're not going out of your way to impress and you genuinely feel good about yourself, it doesn't matter.
 
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