Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Question about DJs character

frank05

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I know that confidence and high self-esteem is the key to success, but something bothers me:
Basically, what is more attractive, the mysterious and quiet guy, or the funny and talkative guy?
I think of positive and negative things to each one:

@Funny/Talkative:
+ Makes friends easily,is very social,is the center of attention,outgoing,unpredictable,****y and funny,energetic

-Can come off as trying hard and insecure,sometimes as goofy and immature,often isn't taken seriously,being the center of attention/outgoing costs a lot of energy

@Mysterious/Quiet:
+ Mysterious=Attractive, has more time listen/think what to say and then make it count,is taken seriously and is always respected,mature,doesn't have the need to be the center of attention,can't come off as trying hard.

- If he is too quiet,he will come off as boring and average and won't attract any girl(unless he is very good looking),gets to know less people and thus less girls.He could easily intimidate people and it could be more difficult to him to build rapport with girls.

I have tried to figure out a balance of both, but both characters seem very different to me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Chemistry

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LOL @ Mysterious = Attractive...

It's about having all attributes at your disposal and links in somewhat with the charisma thread...

You need to be funny and how to crack a joke, but the skill is knowing when the situation requires it, and when to pass up a smaller opportunity to crack that one big joke so that you don't look like a jester!

Be talkative... if you're sat in a room, and you want to talk with a HB9 sat next to you then pick up a conversation... but then know when to be quiet, and know that there's no need to broadcast your life to everyone... have those quiet moments which convey that mystery

I've always mixed the above... I much rather choose to sit there, with a surity and wait for a point in a conversation or a situation to arise which means I can enter with something of value...
 

Lifeforce

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It's not really which one of those who are most attractive, it's about that those different characters will have different women interested. The real question is what YOU want to be. No matter what you do there will be women who are interested in you.
 

skeeloo

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i fall greatly in the quiet and mysterious its natural . not faked many many girls are attracted to me though but sometimes i wish i was more outgoing and loud.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Waking Up

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Talk whenever you want. If you're not forcing it and it's not contrived and you're not going out of your way to impress and you genuinely feel good about yourself, it doesn't matter.
 
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