"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Question about DJs character

frank05

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I know that confidence and high self-esteem is the key to success, but something bothers me:
Basically, what is more attractive, the mysterious and quiet guy, or the funny and talkative guy?
I think of positive and negative things to each one:

@Funny/Talkative:
+ Makes friends easily,is very social,is the center of attention,outgoing,unpredictable,****y and funny,energetic

-Can come off as trying hard and insecure,sometimes as goofy and immature,often isn't taken seriously,being the center of attention/outgoing costs a lot of energy

@Mysterious/Quiet:
+ Mysterious=Attractive, has more time listen/think what to say and then make it count,is taken seriously and is always respected,mature,doesn't have the need to be the center of attention,can't come off as trying hard.

- If he is too quiet,he will come off as boring and average and won't attract any girl(unless he is very good looking),gets to know less people and thus less girls.He could easily intimidate people and it could be more difficult to him to build rapport with girls.

I have tried to figure out a balance of both, but both characters seem very different to me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Chemistry

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LOL @ Mysterious = Attractive...

It's about having all attributes at your disposal and links in somewhat with the charisma thread...

You need to be funny and how to crack a joke, but the skill is knowing when the situation requires it, and when to pass up a smaller opportunity to crack that one big joke so that you don't look like a jester!

Be talkative... if you're sat in a room, and you want to talk with a HB9 sat next to you then pick up a conversation... but then know when to be quiet, and know that there's no need to broadcast your life to everyone... have those quiet moments which convey that mystery

I've always mixed the above... I much rather choose to sit there, with a surity and wait for a point in a conversation or a situation to arise which means I can enter with something of value...
 

Lifeforce

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It's not really which one of those who are most attractive, it's about that those different characters will have different women interested. The real question is what YOU want to be. No matter what you do there will be women who are interested in you.
 

skeeloo

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i fall greatly in the quiet and mysterious its natural . not faked many many girls are attracted to me though but sometimes i wish i was more outgoing and loud.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Waking Up

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Talk whenever you want. If you're not forcing it and it's not contrived and you're not going out of your way to impress and you genuinely feel good about yourself, it doesn't matter.
 
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