"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Question About Bulking

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Im fairly skinny and Im just looking to put on weight and building muscles and all that stuff is of no real interest to me. I just wanna fill out my frame. I dont think Im a hard gainer cause I lost my apptite for a bit awhile back while there was some problems going on. What im asking is will I bulk up faster if do excrise and weight lifting and all of that or will i be alrite if I go the 6 meals a day route and make sure im eating enough calories and stuff.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Unless you have quite good genetics:

Calories overmaintenance with no lifting=Fat gain
Calories overmaintenace with lifting=Muscle and fat gain
Calories overmaintenance with lifting and cardio+carb cutoffs etc=Muscle gain, possibly some fat loss

So yeh, you should lift if you want to put on weight.

Quagmire
 

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'to fill out your frame' you must gain muscle, otherwise your weight gained will be in the form of bodyfat and go straight to your gut/face/thighs/ass/wherever else you store fat.

you can gain weight, of which a certain proportion will be muscle regardless of whether you train or not, but most will be fat. or you can gain weight, and make it mostly, or even all, muscle.

it is of course easier just to gain mostly fat weight - hit up pizza, soda, McD's, whatever else you like eating.

eating 4k ****ty calories and eating 4k quality calories and add in weight training and cardio will result in the same weight gain either way.. but the QUALITY of the weight gain will be night and day different.

if you want to gain muscular weight, you must train and eat like you do.
 

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Quagmire911 said:
Unless you have good genetics:

Calories overmaintenance with no lifting=Fat gain
Calories overmaintenance with lifting and cardio+carb cutoffs etc=Muscle gain

So yeh, you should lift if you want to put on weight.

Quagmire
the Force is strong with this one.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Props to you're bad selfs. I shall go straight to the vault to find some working out stuff. Bye Bye Now.
 

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TonyWongButOhSoRite said:
Props to you're bad selfs. I shall go straight to the vault to find some working out stuff. Bye Bye Now.
Use the "Where to Start" sticky below it, if you want more information on diet etc use the vault.

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I was looking at the where to start sticky and I picked the excrise routine on the page. The only thing is it has stuff like Tricep excersise and I followed the link to see how to do this and theres about 5 different types of those excersies and its the same for some other ones. Also what does the likes of ''2 x 10 - 15'' by the excersies mean? Any help much appreciated.
 

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When I write 'Triceps Exercise' it's a triceps exercise of your choice, which one you do doesn't really matter - choose skullcrushers, pushdowns, close grip benches etc. You may want to choose an extension instead of a press however given your earlier chest/shoulder work.

2 x 10-15 means do two sets of that exercise and aim to get between 10 and 15 reps on it. Obviously if you can do less than that, you need to decrease the weight, and if you can do more, you should increase it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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