"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you guys ever re-gamed a girl?
I am not sure, how did i do for the first time with this girl when i met her. I met her at a party, we are going to meet again for lunch, which she initiated. She told me she will come up with a day and let me know. is it possible to generate attraction and continue from the beginning. What you guy think. Please suggest
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Maximummax said:
Do you guys ever re-gamed a girl?
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Maybe after a year of no contact.

I am not sure, how did i do for the first time with this girl when i met her. I met her at a party, we are going to meet again for lunch, which she initiated. She told me she will come up with a day and let me know.
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That should be your job, not hers. Putting plans into a woman's hands is risky, and she may never get back to you.

is it possible to generate attraction and continue from the beginning. What you guy think. Please suggest
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I don't know what you're trying to say here. A woman's IL doesn't turn on and off like a switch, it fades in and out. If she had high IL a week earlier, it'll still be there but you'll have to turn it up a bit.
 
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Desdinova.....Thank you for the insight

I have her number, should i text her and initiate the date or should i be calling her couple of times before going out, build some more rapport and than ask for lunch. What's your suggestion.

Her interest level seems to be average at this point.
 
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Maximummax said:
Desdinova.....Thank you for the insight

I have her number, should i text her and initiate the date or should i be calling her couple of times before going out, build some more rapport and than ask for lunch. What's your suggestion.

Her interest level seems to be average at this point.
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You met her in person, and got her number.

That's all the rapport you need before setting up Date#1. She saw how you looked. She experienced your personality. She knows you're social (met you at a party).

Face-to-Face always wins over texts and phone calls.

So my advice is, the next time you get in touch with her, just set up the date. "Hey (Girl). (Say something funny about the party). What are you up to this week? Let's go to (Bar/Restaurant)."
 
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