"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Maximummax

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Do you guys ever re-gamed a girl?
I am not sure, how did i do for the first time with this girl when i met her. I met her at a party, we are going to meet again for lunch, which she initiated. She told me she will come up with a day and let me know. is it possible to generate attraction and continue from the beginning. What you guy think. Please suggest
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Maximummax said:
Do you guys ever re-gamed a girl?
Maybe after a year of no contact.

I am not sure, how did i do for the first time with this girl when i met her. I met her at a party, we are going to meet again for lunch, which she initiated. She told me she will come up with a day and let me know.
That should be your job, not hers. Putting plans into a woman's hands is risky, and she may never get back to you.

is it possible to generate attraction and continue from the beginning. What you guy think. Please suggest
I don't know what you're trying to say here. A woman's IL doesn't turn on and off like a switch, it fades in and out. If she had high IL a week earlier, it'll still be there but you'll have to turn it up a bit.
 

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Desdinova.....Thank you for the insight

I have her number, should i text her and initiate the date or should i be calling her couple of times before going out, build some more rapport and than ask for lunch. What's your suggestion.

Her interest level seems to be average at this point.
 

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Maximummax said:
Desdinova.....Thank you for the insight

I have her number, should i text her and initiate the date or should i be calling her couple of times before going out, build some more rapport and than ask for lunch. What's your suggestion.

Her interest level seems to be average at this point.
You met her in person, and got her number.

That's all the rapport you need before setting up Date#1. She saw how you looked. She experienced your personality. She knows you're social (met you at a party).

Face-to-Face always wins over texts and phone calls.

So my advice is, the next time you get in touch with her, just set up the date. "Hey (Girl). (Say something funny about the party). What are you up to this week? Let's go to (Bar/Restaurant)."
 
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