I seem to be attracting women who want long term relationships.
While I’m not necessarily opposed to this idea I do not wish to live with anyone, raise someone else’s children (in a stepfather role) or get married again. Too many legal risks and other downsides (e.g. quality and quantity of bedroom activities decrease due to lack of competition anxiety, familiarity, domesticity, hedonic adaptation etc. results in a gradual deterioration in the other relationship aspects over time).
As I mentioned in another post I’m currently dating a Vietnamese girl whom I know wants a father figure for her 10 year old son and eventually living together or marriage. She is 9 years younger than me, stylish and attractive, slim and while we haven’t progressed to the bedroom she is very open about satisfying bedroom needs through talks we have had.
She has actually done lots of research and talking to her friends on the subject with her most recent partner as she has only ever been with two guys in her life. I’ve already told her my bedroom drive is high and variety, surprise, experimentation etc. is important and she is on the same page.
Yet to be proven through actions obviously but it sounds like physical compatibility may be quite high. The issue is it will eventually come to an end as she will push for more commitment as mentioned above.
Do I just enjoy it for as long as it lasts? I don’t particularly like stringing women along but if I was honest with her about the end game she would pull the pin now and I do want to sleep with her (yeah, selfish I know but isn’t that why most of us guys are all on here?). Besides with anything new you need at least 6 months plus to see if the initial chemistry is sustainable. It’s easy for women to put out in the beginning to obtain a commitment but once commitment is given rarely continues from my experience.
If the physical side of things ends up being good it’s going to be hard to walk away but maintaining that long term is not a price I’m prepared to pay and she will probably make the decision for me. I don’t want to develop oneitis and do something I regret just for the sake of great bedroom fun.
I’m just finding spinning plates very logically difficult with the women I date as they all want to see me at the same time as things progress so 2 is my limit and even that is hard. There are a few others in the mix but I’ve had to let many go due to competing logistics and better options coming up.
Part of me thinks should I find someone who is more open to not living together etc. because every moment with the current girl (as great as the bedroom activities may be) is potentially a moment wasted with someone else that could last longer.
Advice welcome.
While I’m not necessarily opposed to this idea I do not wish to live with anyone, raise someone else’s children (in a stepfather role) or get married again. Too many legal risks and other downsides (e.g. quality and quantity of bedroom activities decrease due to lack of competition anxiety, familiarity, domesticity, hedonic adaptation etc. results in a gradual deterioration in the other relationship aspects over time).
As I mentioned in another post I’m currently dating a Vietnamese girl whom I know wants a father figure for her 10 year old son and eventually living together or marriage. She is 9 years younger than me, stylish and attractive, slim and while we haven’t progressed to the bedroom she is very open about satisfying bedroom needs through talks we have had.
She has actually done lots of research and talking to her friends on the subject with her most recent partner as she has only ever been with two guys in her life. I’ve already told her my bedroom drive is high and variety, surprise, experimentation etc. is important and she is on the same page.
Yet to be proven through actions obviously but it sounds like physical compatibility may be quite high. The issue is it will eventually come to an end as she will push for more commitment as mentioned above.
Do I just enjoy it for as long as it lasts? I don’t particularly like stringing women along but if I was honest with her about the end game she would pull the pin now and I do want to sleep with her (yeah, selfish I know but isn’t that why most of us guys are all on here?). Besides with anything new you need at least 6 months plus to see if the initial chemistry is sustainable. It’s easy for women to put out in the beginning to obtain a commitment but once commitment is given rarely continues from my experience.
If the physical side of things ends up being good it’s going to be hard to walk away but maintaining that long term is not a price I’m prepared to pay and she will probably make the decision for me. I don’t want to develop oneitis and do something I regret just for the sake of great bedroom fun.
I’m just finding spinning plates very logically difficult with the women I date as they all want to see me at the same time as things progress so 2 is my limit and even that is hard. There are a few others in the mix but I’ve had to let many go due to competing logistics and better options coming up.
Part of me thinks should I find someone who is more open to not living together etc. because every moment with the current girl (as great as the bedroom activities may be) is potentially a moment wasted with someone else that could last longer.
Advice welcome.
