"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Qualification?
- Thread starter domino
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
"Are you good in bed?"
"Can you cook?"
There is a whole set of things that must be right before they consider qualifying them selves to you. For example, what would make a girl telling you if she's good in bed or not.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Huge Importance!domino said:
I think this is where true attraction is, it's like the walls drop and you two become cool. Why? Because she starts to see reasons as to why you like her. As far as she knows you like her ONLY because of her looks.
One of the biggest things for qualifying is having standards and indirectly showing it. I think this is how I mainly qualify, since I do have a big bar set and I convey those standards and she starts to try to meet those standards.
Also when she tries to impess me I'm always giving her my approval, and if I'm actually impressed by what she said or done then I will show that I appreicated it.
Other ways I've learned but don't do as much are...
- Screening: Ask questions I'm actually curious about
- Compliance: Getting her more and more invested into you (I think I might start doing this again because this is how I used to get stuff for free and didn't have to give anything in return but my personality)
- SOIs: Jugglers stuff of stating your intent
I think qualification is one of the most over looked things, but it's the place that actually lowers flakes because the barriers are dropped. I used to have many girls wanting to # close me because at the time I never used to go for #s and up to this day I still don't go for #s due to logistics.
Qualification is underrated and most don't even do this.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How important is qualifying a girl? It's extremely important if you're looking for a serious relationship. Just paruse through some of the following blogs and you will understand where I'm coming from:
http://disenfranchisedfather.blogspot.com/
http://www.mirrorofthesoul.blogspot.com/
http://dapook.blogspot.com
There's a reason for the 60% divorce rate (2/3 of which are initiated by women, while the man pays the alimony!). It's because men don't qualify women before they fall in love. They judge a women based solely on her beauty and ignore her lack of femininity and character.
If you're just looking for a quick lay, then no, true qualification is not important at all. In those cases, all you really care about is how hot the girl is (and possibly how many STDs she has). In such instances, you may want to tease the girl about qualifying her, but it's all really an act. If you're just looking for quick sex, you couldn't care less how well she cooks.
True qualification is designed for finding a quality woman to fall in love with.
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Furthermore - qualification is an ongoing process that must be continually applied to the relationship - when you stop the process she gets content, which basically means she starts to resent you and thinks your a whipped pud.Obsidian said:
A qualification a day keeps divorce court away