"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Qualification?
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
"Are you good in bed?"
"Can you cook?"
There is a whole set of things that must be right before they consider qualifying them selves to you. For example, what would make a girl telling you if she's good in bed or not.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Huge Importance!domino said:
I think this is where true attraction is, it's like the walls drop and you two become cool. Why? Because she starts to see reasons as to why you like her. As far as she knows you like her ONLY because of her looks.
One of the biggest things for qualifying is having standards and indirectly showing it. I think this is how I mainly qualify, since I do have a big bar set and I convey those standards and she starts to try to meet those standards.
Also when she tries to impess me I'm always giving her my approval, and if I'm actually impressed by what she said or done then I will show that I appreicated it.
Other ways I've learned but don't do as much are...
- Screening: Ask questions I'm actually curious about
- Compliance: Getting her more and more invested into you (I think I might start doing this again because this is how I used to get stuff for free and didn't have to give anything in return but my personality)
- SOIs: Jugglers stuff of stating your intent
I think qualification is one of the most over looked things, but it's the place that actually lowers flakes because the barriers are dropped. I used to have many girls wanting to # close me because at the time I never used to go for #s and up to this day I still don't go for #s due to logistics.
Qualification is underrated and most don't even do this.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How important is qualifying a girl? It's extremely important if you're looking for a serious relationship. Just paruse through some of the following blogs and you will understand where I'm coming from:
http://disenfranchisedfather.blogspot.com/
http://www.mirrorofthesoul.blogspot.com/
http://dapook.blogspot.com
There's a reason for the 60% divorce rate (2/3 of which are initiated by women, while the man pays the alimony!). It's because men don't qualify women before they fall in love. They judge a women based solely on her beauty and ignore her lack of femininity and character.
If you're just looking for a quick lay, then no, true qualification is not important at all. In those cases, all you really care about is how hot the girl is (and possibly how many STDs she has). In such instances, you may want to tease the girl about qualifying her, but it's all really an act. If you're just looking for quick sex, you couldn't care less how well she cooks.
True qualification is designed for finding a quality woman to fall in love with.
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Furthermore - qualification is an ongoing process that must be continually applied to the relationship - when you stop the process she gets content, which basically means she starts to resent you and thinks your a whipped pud.Obsidian said:
A qualification a day keeps divorce court away