"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Qualification?
- Thread starter domino
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Are you good in bed?"
"Can you cook?"
There is a whole set of things that must be right before they consider qualifying them selves to you. For example, what would make a girl telling you if she's good in bed or not.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Huge Importance!domino said:
I think this is where true attraction is, it's like the walls drop and you two become cool. Why? Because she starts to see reasons as to why you like her. As far as she knows you like her ONLY because of her looks.
One of the biggest things for qualifying is having standards and indirectly showing it. I think this is how I mainly qualify, since I do have a big bar set and I convey those standards and she starts to try to meet those standards.
Also when she tries to impess me I'm always giving her my approval, and if I'm actually impressed by what she said or done then I will show that I appreicated it.
Other ways I've learned but don't do as much are...
- Screening: Ask questions I'm actually curious about
- Compliance: Getting her more and more invested into you (I think I might start doing this again because this is how I used to get stuff for free and didn't have to give anything in return but my personality)
- SOIs: Jugglers stuff of stating your intent
I think qualification is one of the most over looked things, but it's the place that actually lowers flakes because the barriers are dropped. I used to have many girls wanting to # close me because at the time I never used to go for #s and up to this day I still don't go for #s due to logistics.
Qualification is underrated and most don't even do this.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How important is qualifying a girl? It's extremely important if you're looking for a serious relationship. Just paruse through some of the following blogs and you will understand where I'm coming from:
http://disenfranchisedfather.blogspot.com/
http://www.mirrorofthesoul.blogspot.com/
http://dapook.blogspot.com
There's a reason for the 60% divorce rate (2/3 of which are initiated by women, while the man pays the alimony!). It's because men don't qualify women before they fall in love. They judge a women based solely on her beauty and ignore her lack of femininity and character.
If you're just looking for a quick lay, then no, true qualification is not important at all. In those cases, all you really care about is how hot the girl is (and possibly how many STDs she has). In such instances, you may want to tease the girl about qualifying her, but it's all really an act. If you're just looking for quick sex, you couldn't care less how well she cooks.
True qualification is designed for finding a quality woman to fall in love with.
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Furthermore - qualification is an ongoing process that must be continually applied to the relationship - when you stop the process she gets content, which basically means she starts to resent you and thinks your a whipped pud.Obsidian said:
A qualification a day keeps divorce court away