Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
If the glutes didn't fire though, they wouldn't anchor the hips down, and therefore it would become a stiff-leg.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Well, well, that only solidifies my decision to switch to focusing more on pressing than benching. I'm a good 20 lbs off of db press making that ratio1. The ratio between seated dumbbell overhead presses and the bench press
It should be that the weight done for 8 reps on each dumbbell represents 29% of the close-grip bench press measure. In other words, a man able to close-grip bench about 220 pounds for a single would use a pair of 65's for 8 reps in the seated dumbbell overhead presses.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I feel my nagging posts have had SOME effect before I was cast out by the "deadlift is not a squat" patrol.Quagmire911 said:Thursday
Wasn't feeling it today. It could be coming off this cold and the CNS wasn't firing well. Deads weren't right either. Here it is:
Deadlift 155kgx1x1 150kgx1-Wasn't getting any leg drive. Heavy singles aren't going to work until I can get my legs working properly. I have a couple of ideas of how I will work through this. Power cleans/deadlifts from a deficit in a higher rep range (3-5?) and then deadlifts. Maybe some sumo for hip drive too. Coupled with the box squats and gm's.
Isometric-Deadlift starting position-1x4-Each rep held for 5s, 10s inbetween reps. Focusing on maximum contraction. Here my ass came up and back rounded-there is a shocker. Don't think there is any point to these until form is fixed. This was included in Ross Enamaits Infinite Intensity, which is why I am giving it a go.
Speed deads 5x1 100kg-Mix of sumo and conventional. Strangely the sumo felt better. Conventionals just felt slow.
Box squat 105kgx5-Tough. Camera had died by this point which sucks as I couldn't get a video of this again.
Good mornings 75kgx4-Left it at that, was feeling wiped.
Dorian rows 60kg 2x10-Light because I was wiped.
Core: Kneeling ab rollouts 1x5-Just did the one, was wiped.
Russian twists 2x10 (10kg with arm outstreted)
Cardio: One arm snatch 3x15 each side-20kg DB -Pretty brutal.
Just wasn't there today. Was going to do some grip work, but I will do it either later on today or tommorow so as to give them a rest because of the deads etc. I will also include some neck work. Ross Enamait makes the point about hands/neck being undertrained by most. Whilst my hands aren't a problem, my neck is I reckon. I looked up moves like deads/rows on exrx and the splenius and the sternocleidomastoid (neck muscles) aren't included as synergists or whatever. I will therefore devote a couple of sets to moves that will train these muscles and I recommend anyone that reads this too as well.
http://www.exrx.net/Muscles/Splenius.html
http://www.exrx.net/Muscles/Sternocleidomastoid.html
http://www.exrx.net/Lists/ExList/NeckWt.html#anchor1940364 -Exercises
On that note, I have finished reading Infinite Intensity. Whilst it is geared more towards combat athletes rather than powerlifters-many would learn a good deal by reading it. A lot of great info included. Enamait makes this point clear, however he also states that you can easily make changes to suit your own personal needs. I for example am not competing in combat, therefore I can cut down the amount of cardiovasular work and put more of an emphasis on strength work. This is not to say cardio should be neglected, far from it. I also don't need to do as much in the way of skill work-punching drills and the like-however I do like to maintain this skill.
Anyway that is all for now, I will update with the grip/neck work later this evening or tommorow...
Quagmire
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You also want to be pushing out on the sides of your shoes. Never push downward. Act as if you're tying to spread the floor apart. This is to further activate the hips.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.