Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
If the glutes didn't fire though, they wouldn't anchor the hips down, and therefore it would become a stiff-leg.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well, well, that only solidifies my decision to switch to focusing more on pressing than benching. I'm a good 20 lbs off of db press making that ratio1. The ratio between seated dumbbell overhead presses and the bench press
It should be that the weight done for 8 reps on each dumbbell represents 29% of the close-grip bench press measure. In other words, a man able to close-grip bench about 220 pounds for a single would use a pair of 65's for 8 reps in the seated dumbbell overhead presses.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I feel my nagging posts have had SOME effect before I was cast out by the "deadlift is not a squat" patrol.Quagmire911 said:Thursday
Wasn't feeling it today. It could be coming off this cold and the CNS wasn't firing well. Deads weren't right either. Here it is:
Deadlift 155kgx1x1 150kgx1-Wasn't getting any leg drive. Heavy singles aren't going to work until I can get my legs working properly. I have a couple of ideas of how I will work through this. Power cleans/deadlifts from a deficit in a higher rep range (3-5?) and then deadlifts. Maybe some sumo for hip drive too. Coupled with the box squats and gm's.
Isometric-Deadlift starting position-1x4-Each rep held for 5s, 10s inbetween reps. Focusing on maximum contraction. Here my ass came up and back rounded-there is a shocker. Don't think there is any point to these until form is fixed. This was included in Ross Enamaits Infinite Intensity, which is why I am giving it a go.
Speed deads 5x1 100kg-Mix of sumo and conventional. Strangely the sumo felt better. Conventionals just felt slow.
Box squat 105kgx5-Tough. Camera had died by this point which sucks as I couldn't get a video of this again.
Good mornings 75kgx4-Left it at that, was feeling wiped.
Dorian rows 60kg 2x10-Light because I was wiped.
Core: Kneeling ab rollouts 1x5-Just did the one, was wiped.
Russian twists 2x10 (10kg with arm outstreted)
Cardio: One arm snatch 3x15 each side-20kg DB -Pretty brutal.
Just wasn't there today. Was going to do some grip work, but I will do it either later on today or tommorow so as to give them a rest because of the deads etc. I will also include some neck work. Ross Enamait makes the point about hands/neck being undertrained by most. Whilst my hands aren't a problem, my neck is I reckon. I looked up moves like deads/rows on exrx and the splenius and the sternocleidomastoid (neck muscles) aren't included as synergists or whatever. I will therefore devote a couple of sets to moves that will train these muscles and I recommend anyone that reads this too as well.
http://www.exrx.net/Muscles/Splenius.html
http://www.exrx.net/Muscles/Sternocleidomastoid.html
http://www.exrx.net/Lists/ExList/NeckWt.html#anchor1940364 -Exercises
On that note, I have finished reading Infinite Intensity. Whilst it is geared more towards combat athletes rather than powerlifters-many would learn a good deal by reading it. A lot of great info included. Enamait makes this point clear, however he also states that you can easily make changes to suit your own personal needs. I for example am not competing in combat, therefore I can cut down the amount of cardiovasular work and put more of an emphasis on strength work. This is not to say cardio should be neglected, far from it. I also don't need to do as much in the way of skill work-punching drills and the like-however I do like to maintain this skill.
Anyway that is all for now, I will update with the grip/neck work later this evening or tommorow...
Quagmire
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You also want to be pushing out on the sides of your shoes. Never push downward. Act as if you're tying to spread the floor apart. This is to further activate the hips.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.