Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
If the glutes didn't fire though, they wouldn't anchor the hips down, and therefore it would become a stiff-leg.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Well, well, that only solidifies my decision to switch to focusing more on pressing than benching. I'm a good 20 lbs off of db press making that ratio1. The ratio between seated dumbbell overhead presses and the bench press
It should be that the weight done for 8 reps on each dumbbell represents 29% of the close-grip bench press measure. In other words, a man able to close-grip bench about 220 pounds for a single would use a pair of 65's for 8 reps in the seated dumbbell overhead presses.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I feel my nagging posts have had SOME effect before I was cast out by the "deadlift is not a squat" patrol.Quagmire911 said:Thursday
Wasn't feeling it today. It could be coming off this cold and the CNS wasn't firing well. Deads weren't right either. Here it is:
Deadlift 155kgx1x1 150kgx1-Wasn't getting any leg drive. Heavy singles aren't going to work until I can get my legs working properly. I have a couple of ideas of how I will work through this. Power cleans/deadlifts from a deficit in a higher rep range (3-5?) and then deadlifts. Maybe some sumo for hip drive too. Coupled with the box squats and gm's.
Isometric-Deadlift starting position-1x4-Each rep held for 5s, 10s inbetween reps. Focusing on maximum contraction. Here my ass came up and back rounded-there is a shocker. Don't think there is any point to these until form is fixed. This was included in Ross Enamaits Infinite Intensity, which is why I am giving it a go.
Speed deads 5x1 100kg-Mix of sumo and conventional. Strangely the sumo felt better. Conventionals just felt slow.
Box squat 105kgx5-Tough. Camera had died by this point which sucks as I couldn't get a video of this again.
Good mornings 75kgx4-Left it at that, was feeling wiped.
Dorian rows 60kg 2x10-Light because I was wiped.
Core: Kneeling ab rollouts 1x5-Just did the one, was wiped.
Russian twists 2x10 (10kg with arm outstreted)
Cardio: One arm snatch 3x15 each side-20kg DB -Pretty brutal.
Just wasn't there today. Was going to do some grip work, but I will do it either later on today or tommorow so as to give them a rest because of the deads etc. I will also include some neck work. Ross Enamait makes the point about hands/neck being undertrained by most. Whilst my hands aren't a problem, my neck is I reckon. I looked up moves like deads/rows on exrx and the splenius and the sternocleidomastoid (neck muscles) aren't included as synergists or whatever. I will therefore devote a couple of sets to moves that will train these muscles and I recommend anyone that reads this too as well.
http://www.exrx.net/Muscles/Splenius.html
http://www.exrx.net/Muscles/Sternocleidomastoid.html
http://www.exrx.net/Lists/ExList/NeckWt.html#anchor1940364 -Exercises
On that note, I have finished reading Infinite Intensity. Whilst it is geared more towards combat athletes rather than powerlifters-many would learn a good deal by reading it. A lot of great info included. Enamait makes this point clear, however he also states that you can easily make changes to suit your own personal needs. I for example am not competing in combat, therefore I can cut down the amount of cardiovasular work and put more of an emphasis on strength work. This is not to say cardio should be neglected, far from it. I also don't need to do as much in the way of skill work-punching drills and the like-however I do like to maintain this skill.
Anyway that is all for now, I will update with the grip/neck work later this evening or tommorow...
Quagmire
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You also want to be pushing out on the sides of your shoes. Never push downward. Act as if you're tying to spread the floor apart. This is to further activate the hips.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.