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My few good girls who happened to be my gf previously would never do such a thing, the only thing she would do are story telling me their orbiters were hitting on her when things were good between us.. They will made sure of it clear as a day they had been shut closed and were meant that way.. Cos theyre afraid if anything happened to the relationship that would risked it demised. Well when thing go south shes saying shes taking a ride in a car with other dude.. Thats how it works.Excellent post and the most important point here.
If she, like most women nowadays has used social media her whole life and no specific boundaries were set at the beginning of the relationship regarding social media presence, then how can you fault her for enjoying free attention?
I think she acts transparent and i wouldn't worry about this guy at all. Probably just a random horny orbiter who's sending her d1ck p1cs by the looks of it. He showed his hand by spamming her everyday. Now if i would have gotten the feeling that she tries to hide something or gets confrontational about this, then alarm bells would go off.
Didn't @logicallefty have a thread about his ex-gf doing something similar a couple of months ago?
OP how did he get her snapchat? Did he just randomly find her? Dont they need her number?So I have an interesting one, been dating this girl for 8 months, was spinning plates at the time and we just ended up clicking so we went for it. Everythings been great, she buys me stuff, cooks, cleans, our sex drives both line up ( aka a lot of sex). Shes told me and shows me she is in love with me, words and actions here. She backs up what she says. However, somthing weird has come up. Some dude has been bombing her with snapchats for the past week. Like multiple every single day. She doesn't open them or opens them and doesn't reply. I brought it up and said, "Is that your new man?" as a joke.
This turned into a more serious conversation and she asked me if it bothered me, I said "would it bother you if I had a girl snapping me like that?" She said "yes". She dove into tell me how she doesn't reply, has no interest in replying, she did not start he randomly started blowing her up, reassured she loved me and even asked me if I wanted her to block him. I said I didn't care about blocking the dude. But I'm not sure why a few days later this is still in my mind. It doesn't seem like shes trying to cheat or even keep this dude around as an orbiter. Just seems like unsolicited snapchats for whatever reason.
What would you guys do in this situation?
I should add she doesn’t do sketchy **** with her phone either. We know each others passwords, we both go into each others phones to change songs, nav etc. she leaves her phone out in front of me and doesn’t do the sketchy tbings you’d expect
Who gave you the idea that Jealousy is a turn off to women? (the normal kind a man should have as in boundrues)reply/hangout (obviously) and that is when she told me she hasnt done any of that, but she may test me to make sure i hold my ground and im not jealous,
There is 2 ways to handle this.and she asked me if I wanted her to block him.
Trust is earned. Never ever fully trust anyone especially a modern woman. The naive man blindly trusts an emotional volatile human femaleYou being in a relationship with a woman you don't trust to the point where you have her password makes sense to you?
The fearmongering on this site is out of control at times. Literally anything you bring up will have 1/3 of the posters saying to dump her or that it's the beginning of the end.To everyone who is worried about the guy snapping her: How many guys have successfully stolen someone’s girl, or slept with her, by spamming her repeatedly on social media without any response from her? I’m not worried about that guy at all.
Girls are anti-confrontational. To them, blocking is a confrontation. Most women will just ignore a guy they aren't interested in - not read the messages and/or not respond to the messages. In OP's case, his girl isn't even opening the messages. I don't see how this is some big deal. Guys can snap anyone they want. What if a girl snapped OP and he didn't open it or respond? Is that automatically his fault and means he's about to bang her and his girl should be really worried?
As far as why does she have snapchat, because people use it to communicate. It's social media. That's like saying, "Why do you have Facebook or Instagram or text-messaging if you are in a relationship?"
BS keep telling yourself that. I just got a PM today reiterating why men need to be this way today. Hopefully he updates his story.The fearmongering on this site is out of control at times. Literally anything you bring up will have 1/3 of the posters saying to dump her or that it's the beginning of the end.
Sounds like she isn't a problem. She isn't replying to him or entertaining him so it appears as though she just has a thirsty b@st@rd looking to try to get her attention. You have her attention.So I have an interesting one, been dating this girl for 8 months, was spinning plates at the time and we just ended up clicking so we went for it. Everythings been great, she buys me stuff, cooks, cleans, our sex drives both line up ( aka a lot of sex). Shes told me and shows me she is in love with me, words and actions here. She backs up what she says. However, somthing weird has come up. Some dude has been bombing her with snapchats for the past week. Like multiple every single day. She doesn't open them or opens them and doesn't reply. I brought it up and said, "Is that your new man?" as a joke.
This turned into a more serious conversation and she asked me if it bothered me, I said "would it bother you if I had a girl snapping me like that?" She said "yes". She dove into tell me how she doesn't reply, has no interest in replying, she did not start he randomly started blowing her up, reassured she loved me and even asked me if I wanted her to block him. I said I didn't care about blocking the dude. But I'm not sure why a few days later this is still in my mind. It doesn't seem like shes trying to cheat or even keep this dude around as an orbiter. Just seems like unsolicited snapchats for whatever reason.
What would you guys do in this situation?
I should add she doesn’t do sketchy **** with her phone either. We know each others passwords, we both go into each others phones to change songs, nav etc. she leaves her phone out in front of me and doesn’t do the sketchy tbings you’d expect
This is a respect issue. She should have have volunteered to block him. If you bring it up again take the respect angle.I'm sure I can bring it up again and have her block him but that is just going to put me in a bad situation and make me look jealous.
I agree it is sometimes unwarranted, but at the same time, her behavior will not improve.The fearmongering on this site is out of control at times. Literally anything you bring up will have 1/3 of the posters saying to dump her or that it's the beginning of the end.
Crisp.I told my current gf, when we first started dating, that I wont ever have to tell my girlfriend what to do when a guy hits on her, because if she doesn’t know to respond, then she isn’t my girlfriend. Just like that.
And I bet she told OP about the guy who's snapping her with a smirk smile on her face. That type of girls enjoy power play making OP insecure about another guy, that she thinks she's desirable and he's not.My few good girls who happened to be my gf previously would never do such a thing, the only thing she would do are story telling me their orbiters were hitting on her when things were good between us.. They will made sure of it clear as a day they had been shut closed and were meant that way.. Cos theyre afraid if anything happened to the relationship that would risked it demised. Well when thing go south shes saying shes taking a ride in a car with other dude.. Thats how it works.
I wouldnt trust someone who blatantly rub my nose with other dude to be in a relationship.
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@stringpuller heres your update:OP; have their been any other signs or weird vibes which you have gotten?
Remember this: YOUR internal alarm went off due to this situation - how she conveyed the circumstance to you, her body language and all context of your relationship which none of us are privy to.
Flags are present, yes, but I’m sure even before this situation given the fact you’re posting - so this isn’t the first weird vibe you’ve gotten, I bet.
The thing is to be honest with yourself and us, so we can help you. There is a bit of denial in the way you write. Self reassurance that you’re not being played...
In my most recent relationship I was in denial. And the red flags were there. That guy snapping her? To you it’s a boundary of yours which has been crossed, and an unmet standard. She’s pushing the boundary and taking away a small piece of your power; you feel it; we see it. That’s why you’re here in this thread.
we can give you objective advice from our experienceS if you’re able to be very truthful with other parts of the relationship.
Because if she REALLY cared about you, why would she tell you about the guy who is continuously snapping her? And WHYYY would you use the words ‘is that your new boyfriend?’ Those words came from your Insecurity. But that also denotes that there are things she is doing which are making you insecure in THIS relationship to make you think she isn’t as committed as you are...
She did not have a smirk on her face, more like a face of disgust.And I bet she told OP about the guy who's snapping her with a smirk smile on her face. That type of girls enjoy power play making OP insecure about another guy, that she thinks she's desirable and he's not.
Of course you can regain the frame. If it is honestly a boundary of yours back off. Really consider what you want from a girl.@stringpuller see those would have been good ways to deal with that, and yeah I realized I failed a **** test, it happens. Now I know and I learned from it. I’ve never been in that situation but hell now I know.
many advice on regaining frame,I know it isn’t fully out of my corner just yet.
Isn't that a little extreme? Why?Update: she deleted snapchat.