Ok, I realize I get much more USEFUL information here than from all the so called seduction gurus, and materal out there, so I have what I feel is an interesting question. It's pretty well known that what we say is only a very small part of communication, like ten percent I believe. And, women, people in general for that matter, can usually tell a lot about someone just by looking at them, which also means that women can tell almost instantly if they think someone is attractive or not. However, I don't think it's based on looks alone.I know I can tell a lot just by looking at someone. Aside from looks, how can one make themself seem more interesing, attractive, etc. 100% non-verbally? And waht is about people that give us these cues?? Thanks.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Put on you thinking caps gents...
- Thread starter Drewskie
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
David D has a whole program on body language,but for starters. Don't lean forward,[needy]lean back.Take up space,be totally relaxed and in control. Eliminate any bad habits[nervous tics,twitches]. Bein an open body posture[no crossed arms or legs]
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
When it comes to women, never put on your thinking caps..
You put on your thinking caps when you are dealing with sh!t of life, like work, school, and what it takes to be rich. Women, no.
You put on your thinking caps when you are dealing with sh!t of life, like work, school, and what it takes to be rich. Women, no.
You are right about that, it's illogical to think women will think logically, but this is more for myself. I think the phrase I was looking for is Natural Attraction. How can one convey attraction without ever saying a word??
Attraction rarely has anything to do with what you say, anyway.
I glance over at a girl. She sees me.
I hold eye contact. She nervously looks away.
As I walk towards her, she pretends to be doing something, but I can tell she's tensing up.
So far I haven't said a word to her, but the attraction has already taken place. You can spend years breaking down the body language, but you can achieve the same results much quicker with the right mental frame.
I glance over at a girl. She sees me.
I hold eye contact. She nervously looks away.
As I walk towards her, she pretends to be doing something, but I can tell she's tensing up.
So far I haven't said a word to her, but the attraction has already taken place. You can spend years breaking down the body language, but you can achieve the same results much quicker with the right mental frame.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Confident - relaxed mindset. Eye contact. Smile, and body language. Thats ppretty much it if you want to come off as attractive without saying anything.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This is something that comes from inside. You can't fake it, and you can't learn it. Its instinctual and you have to find out how to activate it.
I do it through the gym. I get more energy. I also take various herbal supplements for my... problems. If you have any kind of physical or mental ailment then treat it otherwise it will suck energy. Physical, mental.. whatever the ailment is.
Another thing is to do something you like and can take pride in.
I do it through the gym. I get more energy. I also take various herbal supplements for my... problems. If you have any kind of physical or mental ailment then treat it otherwise it will suck energy. Physical, mental.. whatever the ailment is.
Another thing is to do something you like and can take pride in.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Bingo!!
this is one of the better post here as of late (hasn't been that many) KBJ's take notes!!
well today i was walking round student halls and i saw a girl coming out her room and as i walked passed i held eye contact smiled she smiled back and i carried on walking with a bit of an ego boost, then in the next corridor i saw another girl and smiled at her aswell and she smiled back. now i just need to go round and say hello to all these girls outside my comfort zone
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Because you're getting the truth and it doesn't sell as well as feel good bullsh*t that most "gurus" peddle to empty your pockets.Drewskie said:
You can't. You have to speak up. Yes looks are important but they can only tell you so much about a person. A personality and the way a person speaks will tell you far more. So say something, anything and that will communicate what and who you are across.
Chicks can't read THAT much. They're pretty weak judges of character actually. They're just responsive to certain things, and if you know what cues to give them you can fool them.
Douchebags do this all the time.
I have seen many instances where women will say, he's not cute/cute/ whatever, but there's just something about him, when they are sinply looking at a man. So there's got to be something other than personality, since it's based solely what they can see.Alle_Gory said: