Ok, I realize I get much more USEFUL information here than from all the so called seduction gurus, and materal out there, so I have what I feel is an interesting question. It's pretty well known that what we say is only a very small part of communication, like ten percent I believe. And, women, people in general for that matter, can usually tell a lot about someone just by looking at them, which also means that women can tell almost instantly if they think someone is attractive or not. However, I don't think it's based on looks alone.I know I can tell a lot just by looking at someone. Aside from looks, how can one make themself seem more interesing, attractive, etc. 100% non-verbally? And waht is about people that give us these cues?? Thanks.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Put on you thinking caps gents...
- Thread starter Drewskie
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
David D has a whole program on body language,but for starters. Don't lean forward,[needy]lean back.Take up space,be totally relaxed and in control. Eliminate any bad habits[nervous tics,twitches]. Bein an open body posture[no crossed arms or legs]
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
When it comes to women, never put on your thinking caps..
You put on your thinking caps when you are dealing with sh!t of life, like work, school, and what it takes to be rich. Women, no.
You put on your thinking caps when you are dealing with sh!t of life, like work, school, and what it takes to be rich. Women, no.
You are right about that, it's illogical to think women will think logically, but this is more for myself. I think the phrase I was looking for is Natural Attraction. How can one convey attraction without ever saying a word??
Attraction rarely has anything to do with what you say, anyway.
I glance over at a girl. She sees me.
I hold eye contact. She nervously looks away.
As I walk towards her, she pretends to be doing something, but I can tell she's tensing up.
So far I haven't said a word to her, but the attraction has already taken place. You can spend years breaking down the body language, but you can achieve the same results much quicker with the right mental frame.
I glance over at a girl. She sees me.
I hold eye contact. She nervously looks away.
As I walk towards her, she pretends to be doing something, but I can tell she's tensing up.
So far I haven't said a word to her, but the attraction has already taken place. You can spend years breaking down the body language, but you can achieve the same results much quicker with the right mental frame.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Confident - relaxed mindset. Eye contact. Smile, and body language. Thats ppretty much it if you want to come off as attractive without saying anything.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This is something that comes from inside. You can't fake it, and you can't learn it. Its instinctual and you have to find out how to activate it.
I do it through the gym. I get more energy. I also take various herbal supplements for my... problems. If you have any kind of physical or mental ailment then treat it otherwise it will suck energy. Physical, mental.. whatever the ailment is.
Another thing is to do something you like and can take pride in.
I do it through the gym. I get more energy. I also take various herbal supplements for my... problems. If you have any kind of physical or mental ailment then treat it otherwise it will suck energy. Physical, mental.. whatever the ailment is.
Another thing is to do something you like and can take pride in.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Bingo!!
this is one of the better post here as of late (hasn't been that many) KBJ's take notes!!
well today i was walking round student halls and i saw a girl coming out her room and as i walked passed i held eye contact smiled she smiled back and i carried on walking with a bit of an ego boost, then in the next corridor i saw another girl and smiled at her aswell and she smiled back. now i just need to go round and say hello to all these girls outside my comfort zone
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Because you're getting the truth and it doesn't sell as well as feel good bullsh*t that most "gurus" peddle to empty your pockets.Drewskie said:
You can't. You have to speak up. Yes looks are important but they can only tell you so much about a person. A personality and the way a person speaks will tell you far more. So say something, anything and that will communicate what and who you are across.
Chicks can't read THAT much. They're pretty weak judges of character actually. They're just responsive to certain things, and if you know what cues to give them you can fool them.
Douchebags do this all the time.
I have seen many instances where women will say, he's not cute/cute/ whatever, but there's just something about him, when they are sinply looking at a man. So there's got to be something other than personality, since it's based solely what they can see.Alle_Gory said: