Whenever I meet a girl whether if she comes up to me or I approach her. It always ends in the girl being pushed away from me. I finally found out the reason why from friends who investigated to find out why they stopped talking to me. It was because I was TOO FKN PUSHY!! Whenever I am with them I would hold them and all like they were already my girl. I've scared 3 girls already because of this. I'm just looking for a girlfriend and when I meet someone I get kinda out of hand and already initiate crap and hopefully now the next one I meet I can show her a LITTLE interest and then just pull away, touch her a little then abruptly STOP and ignore her. I hope this will better my game. It's so weird because what if I stop pursing a chick and she just thinks that I'm not interested in her and WON'T chase me?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Pursuing a girl just pushes her away.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Master Don Juan
Theres really no 'game' you need to play with a woman like push and pull, etc.. no matter how many guys praise the method, I like to work a little more naturally.
If you come on very pushy, she is obviously going to take a step back and say "whoa desperate?" Remember, you're the prize. She has to earn her way into being touched by you. Start with light joking conversation. Once you spark her interest, move into something a little more sensual. If she starts responding well THEN sure, touch her a little bit.
A woman likes to work for a man. She wants that sense of "Well I'm going to show him who I am and if he likes it, he will respond positively". If you respond positively with no work from her, then you're just screaming disparity. She knows that she can get you no matter what she says, so she sees no challenge.
If you come on very pushy, she is obviously going to take a step back and say "whoa desperate?" Remember, you're the prize. She has to earn her way into being touched by you. Start with light joking conversation. Once you spark her interest, move into something a little more sensual. If she starts responding well THEN sure, touch her a little bit.
A woman likes to work for a man. She wants that sense of "Well I'm going to show him who I am and if he likes it, he will respond positively". If you respond positively with no work from her, then you're just screaming disparity. She knows that she can get you no matter what she says, so she sees no challenge.
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Too bad they think that making something work has to be challenging...LOL I dont like challenge I like functionality. Challenge turns me off.
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Master Don Juan
That's why we are men and they are women. We live logically and women live based on emotions. It's a painful truth, but denying it is futile.DonGorgon said:
I am pretty sure if a woman likes you...your being "pushy" will only speed things up towards her becoming your gf. Try it on fat chicks or someone who wants to be in a relationship. You will see what I am talking about.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.