Whenever I meet a girl whether if she comes up to me or I approach her. It always ends in the girl being pushed away from me. I finally found out the reason why from friends who investigated to find out why they stopped talking to me. It was because I was TOO FKN PUSHY!! Whenever I am with them I would hold them and all like they were already my girl. I've scared 3 girls already because of this. I'm just looking for a girlfriend and when I meet someone I get kinda out of hand and already initiate crap and hopefully now the next one I meet I can show her a LITTLE interest and then just pull away, touch her a little then abruptly STOP and ignore her. I hope this will better my game. It's so weird because what if I stop pursing a chick and she just thinks that I'm not interested in her and WON'T chase me?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Pursuing a girl just pushes her away.
- Thread starter baurman
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Theres really no 'game' you need to play with a woman like push and pull, etc.. no matter how many guys praise the method, I like to work a little more naturally.
If you come on very pushy, she is obviously going to take a step back and say "whoa desperate?" Remember, you're the prize. She has to earn her way into being touched by you. Start with light joking conversation. Once you spark her interest, move into something a little more sensual. If she starts responding well THEN sure, touch her a little bit.
A woman likes to work for a man. She wants that sense of "Well I'm going to show him who I am and if he likes it, he will respond positively". If you respond positively with no work from her, then you're just screaming disparity. She knows that she can get you no matter what she says, so she sees no challenge.
If you come on very pushy, she is obviously going to take a step back and say "whoa desperate?" Remember, you're the prize. She has to earn her way into being touched by you. Start with light joking conversation. Once you spark her interest, move into something a little more sensual. If she starts responding well THEN sure, touch her a little bit.
A woman likes to work for a man. She wants that sense of "Well I'm going to show him who I am and if he likes it, he will respond positively". If you respond positively with no work from her, then you're just screaming disparity. She knows that she can get you no matter what she says, so she sees no challenge.
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Too bad they think that making something work has to be challenging...LOL I dont like challenge I like functionality. Challenge turns me off.
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Master Don Juan
That's why we are men and they are women. We live logically and women live based on emotions. It's a painful truth, but denying it is futile.DonGorgon said:
I am pretty sure if a woman likes you...your being "pushy" will only speed things up towards her becoming your gf. Try it on fat chicks or someone who wants to be in a relationship. You will see what I am talking about.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.