"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Pullups and chinups
- Thread starter Skel
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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
-.-
Senior Don Juan
Chins are supposedly easier than pullups.
Just to be clear:
Chins = Palms facing yourself
Pullups = Palms facing out
Here's a link for further analysis.
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/search.php?s=&action=showresults&searchid=2917963&sortby=&sortorder=
But basically, It's just preference and which one works better for you. For me, I prefer chins because it really is good for the biceps.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
Chins = bicep
Pullups = Back
They make you put on size and strength if done right. If it gets too easy you can add a weight belt and do them that way.
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Senior Don Juan
I disagree. Chins are not only for biceps. Pullups are not only for back. They are compound, and must be treated accordingly.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
I never said they were only for biceps and back. I was just giving a general overview.
Deadlifts are for back, Squats are for Legs, Bench Presses are for Chest, Shoulder Presses are for shoulders... they're all compound movements and not isolations, however, I regard them as back, legs etc cause thats what it mainly focuses on.
I wouldnt say Benching primarily works your:
Pectoralis Major/Minor - Most active at the bottom of the pressing movement
Triceps - Used more towards the end of the lift, and if not strong enough, causes the notorious sticking spot near the top of the lift.
Front Deltoid - Used throughout the lift
and why? because it's way too specific. People use bench presses on chest day. period. It's a chest excersize, albeit a compound excsersize.
[excluding close grip bench press, which 'course, works ye olde triceps more]
Either way, pull ups are in my back day, chin ups would be in my bi's day. With me?
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California Love
Master Don Juan
Pullups = Back + Triceps. However, the triceps are working at a very restricted angle, which makes pullups harder for most people.
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Senior Don Juan
I'm with you...
But basically, most people do back and bicep in the same day. How's ur split bro?-.-
Senior Don Juan
Triceps? You serious? Triceps are worked at pushing stuff.. And Biceps on pulling, basically.
California Love
Master Don Juan
Don't trust me braindmg? Check it out for yourself the next time you work out.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
Day 2: Back + Tri's
Day 3: off
Day 4: Chest + Bi's
Day 5: Delts + Traps
Day 6: off
Day 7: off
Now the summer holiday is here, I've changed the days my workout week starts to fit around my working days, but actually I changed my split so the muscles that seem to get DOMS the worst are on the days where I'm wokring nights.
I cant stand doing tri's on chest day... I know I can get so much more out of my tri's, I just dont feel they get worked enough. I've tried doing chest first on one week, then tri's first the next week, then chest again the following week, but I just dont like it... I dont feel satisfied at the end of the workout.
My gains have gone through the roof recently with some nice heavy compound movements and this split.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
-.-
Senior Don Juan
How do you know me? Who are you?
If your 8-10 weeks comes along, and you're taking your week off, and looking for something to throw into your next routine, think about old school bodybuilding at the 5 x 5 approach (5 sets of 5 - heavy). I've been doing it for a bit on specific 'big' exercises (squats, arnolds, flat bench, deads, rows...) and my strength gains have been coming back pretty damn good. Just a tho't.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
I started doing that about 2 weeks ago... the last set blew my legs off
What'd your oppinion be on adding in the occasional 3 weeks of doing purely big excersizes such as clean and jerks, deadlifts, squats, benching etc. From what I hear, taking up a powerlifting style routine for a short amount of time can really boost your strength and give your bodybuilding a sudden kick in the pants... then again, I dont always believe what I read online
Sounds to me like an awesome idea. Throwing in "head rush" exercises like that for a few weeks will just tear you to shreads, and then you can go back to some isolations after your body is pumped from those weeks. seems like an awesome idea.
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The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Chinups are easier because you're focusing more weight on your biceps. Most people have more strength in their biceps than in their lats. Pullups are harder for some because you are less able to use your biceps for most of the weight. It's not an exact science, but pullups are typically harder than chinups.
Pulling is a bicep/back motion. Pushing is a tricep/chest motion. Not all the time, but most of the time. You are not flexing your triceps on the pull of a pullup or chinup. Imagine you doing dumbell curls, would you be working your triceps just because your palms are facing down instead of facing up? Nope. You'd put some extra strain on your forearms, but you would absolutely NOT be working your triceps because of it.
California Love, I don't know what kind of pullups you've been doing, but you should not feel tension in your triceps for a pull up. Just put up your arm and flex with your palm facing your face and then flex with your palm facing away. Still biceps, just subtle differences in position.
akindofblue
Don Juan
And no cheating. All the way down, and all the way up. No swinging, no rocking. Up and down.
Seriously, nothing gives your back width like pullups/chinups. Once you can do 8 or so, up the weight. It's the quickest way to build. A few months ago I could only do 8 pullups w/o weights. I made 30 yesterday.