Beatflux
Don Juan
In the game of black and white, white can't win.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Public Service Announcement
- Thread starter The Antichrist_Star
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I don't think the problem is people having a sense of humor around here, i just think that if some new guy comes around asking for advice, we should try and help him... kindly no less.
The reason 99% of the people on this site came here was to learn what they were doing wrong, and having "respected" (high post counts look like respect to newbies) posters slandering them when they come is against what most people come here for. What would you all do if Pook called you a pvssy and put you down after your first post here? To them, that's what it seems like is happening.
I've actually noticed things getting better as far as this goes, but maybe it's just the posts i've been reading. Anyways, it's not wrong to have a little fun here, but try not to at the expense of others who just want to learn what's going on. Most of you, after all, were once in their shoes.
The reason 99% of the people on this site came here was to learn what they were doing wrong, and having "respected" (high post counts look like respect to newbies) posters slandering them when they come is against what most people come here for. What would you all do if Pook called you a pvssy and put you down after your first post here? To them, that's what it seems like is happening.
I've actually noticed things getting better as far as this goes, but maybe it's just the posts i've been reading. Anyways, it's not wrong to have a little fun here, but try not to at the expense of others who just want to learn what's going on. Most of you, after all, were once in their shoes.
I-am-someone
Senior Don Juan
Okay, I've been a forum-owner for a while and I know a few things about how to run a forum.
If you want to get rid of "useless posts", the solution is quite simple. Delete every single post that is to be considered irrelevant for this forum. In case a misunderstanding might come to be between the poster and the moderator, send him a short message explaining why you deleted his post with a warning. This is pretty easy to do and keeps everything an awful hell of a lot cleaner.
Another thing I do have to comment about is the version of vBulletin you guys are using. It's probably one of the oldest I have seen in quite a while. If you don't intend to spend any money on the software, then I suggest you try taking a look at other software such as SMF.
I know that the earlier stated approach may sound like more work, but I have seen other boards that grew beyond their moderating capacity and the nonsense posting went crazy overnight. They decided to go at it like we did, and in a week they had everything under control again, making the process a whole lot smoother and less demanding on the moderators.
If you want to get rid of "useless posts", the solution is quite simple. Delete every single post that is to be considered irrelevant for this forum. In case a misunderstanding might come to be between the poster and the moderator, send him a short message explaining why you deleted his post with a warning. This is pretty easy to do and keeps everything an awful hell of a lot cleaner.
Another thing I do have to comment about is the version of vBulletin you guys are using. It's probably one of the oldest I have seen in quite a while. If you don't intend to spend any money on the software, then I suggest you try taking a look at other software such as SMF.
I know that the earlier stated approach may sound like more work, but I have seen other boards that grew beyond their moderating capacity and the nonsense posting went crazy overnight. They decided to go at it like we did, and in a week they had everything under control again, making the process a whole lot smoother and less demanding on the moderators.
I totally agree with this. In my opinion I think it's time that we get some new moderators...they've gone corrupt and abused there power. I actually would like to Pook to be a moderator. I think we shouldn't fear moderators because they'll delete our posts and all that but acutally be able to trust our own moderators.Originally posted by DJoneday
I don't think the problem is people having a sense of humor around here, i just think that if some new guy comes around asking for advice, we should try and help him... kindly no less.
The reason 99% of the people on this site came here was to learn what they were doing wrong, and having "respected" (high post counts look like respect to newbies) posters slandering them when they come is against what most people come here for. What would you all do if Pook called you a pvssy and put you down after your first post here? To them, that's what it seems like is happening.
I've actually noticed things getting better as far as this goes, but maybe it's just the posts i've been reading. Anyways, it's not wrong to have a little fun here, but try not to at the expense of others who just want to learn what's going on. Most of you, after all, were once in their shoes.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.