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Don Juan
In the game of black and white, white can't win.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I don't think the problem is people having a sense of humor around here, i just think that if some new guy comes around asking for advice, we should try and help him... kindly no less.
The reason 99% of the people on this site came here was to learn what they were doing wrong, and having "respected" (high post counts look like respect to newbies) posters slandering them when they come is against what most people come here for. What would you all do if Pook called you a pvssy and put you down after your first post here? To them, that's what it seems like is happening.
I've actually noticed things getting better as far as this goes, but maybe it's just the posts i've been reading. Anyways, it's not wrong to have a little fun here, but try not to at the expense of others who just want to learn what's going on. Most of you, after all, were once in their shoes.
The reason 99% of the people on this site came here was to learn what they were doing wrong, and having "respected" (high post counts look like respect to newbies) posters slandering them when they come is against what most people come here for. What would you all do if Pook called you a pvssy and put you down after your first post here? To them, that's what it seems like is happening.
I've actually noticed things getting better as far as this goes, but maybe it's just the posts i've been reading. Anyways, it's not wrong to have a little fun here, but try not to at the expense of others who just want to learn what's going on. Most of you, after all, were once in their shoes.
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Senior Don Juan
Okay, I've been a forum-owner for a while and I know a few things about how to run a forum.
If you want to get rid of "useless posts", the solution is quite simple. Delete every single post that is to be considered irrelevant for this forum. In case a misunderstanding might come to be between the poster and the moderator, send him a short message explaining why you deleted his post with a warning. This is pretty easy to do and keeps everything an awful hell of a lot cleaner.
Another thing I do have to comment about is the version of vBulletin you guys are using. It's probably one of the oldest I have seen in quite a while. If you don't intend to spend any money on the software, then I suggest you try taking a look at other software such as SMF.
I know that the earlier stated approach may sound like more work, but I have seen other boards that grew beyond their moderating capacity and the nonsense posting went crazy overnight. They decided to go at it like we did, and in a week they had everything under control again, making the process a whole lot smoother and less demanding on the moderators.
If you want to get rid of "useless posts", the solution is quite simple. Delete every single post that is to be considered irrelevant for this forum. In case a misunderstanding might come to be between the poster and the moderator, send him a short message explaining why you deleted his post with a warning. This is pretty easy to do and keeps everything an awful hell of a lot cleaner.
Another thing I do have to comment about is the version of vBulletin you guys are using. It's probably one of the oldest I have seen in quite a while. If you don't intend to spend any money on the software, then I suggest you try taking a look at other software such as SMF.
I know that the earlier stated approach may sound like more work, but I have seen other boards that grew beyond their moderating capacity and the nonsense posting went crazy overnight. They decided to go at it like we did, and in a week they had everything under control again, making the process a whole lot smoother and less demanding on the moderators.
I totally agree with this. In my opinion I think it's time that we get some new moderators...they've gone corrupt and abused there power. I actually would like to Pook to be a moderator. I think we shouldn't fear moderators because they'll delete our posts and all that but acutally be able to trust our own moderators.Originally posted by DJoneday
I don't think the problem is people having a sense of humor around here, i just think that if some new guy comes around asking for advice, we should try and help him... kindly no less.
The reason 99% of the people on this site came here was to learn what they were doing wrong, and having "respected" (high post counts look like respect to newbies) posters slandering them when they come is against what most people come here for. What would you all do if Pook called you a pvssy and put you down after your first post here? To them, that's what it seems like is happening.
I've actually noticed things getting better as far as this goes, but maybe it's just the posts i've been reading. Anyways, it's not wrong to have a little fun here, but try not to at the expense of others who just want to learn what's going on. Most of you, after all, were once in their shoes.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.