She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It absolutely is the man's job to lead.Some might say that what I'm saying is not really true and that it is a man's job to initiate and lead. But that is a form of chivalry, which has no place in an egalitarian society.
I agree with you , but he has a point about charging money to guys then traveling the world creating that lifestyleObsidian said:He says a lot of truth about women's immaturity. But he also offers some overly harsh criticism about seduction techniques. Ultimately, here is where he goes wrong:
It absolutely is the man's job to lead.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Zekko dropping gems again!zekko said:Certainly men should lead.
But I agree with the author about the first main flaw with the PUA philosophy. They say don't put women on the pedestal, but then they tell you to change your entire personality to attract them, become c0cky and funny because they like c0cky and funny, act like a jerk because they like jerks, learn how to pass all their sh!t tests, go out and say "hi" to 100 women, go club five nights a week and approach women for six years so you get good at it. I mean, damn, talk about being a puppet dancing on women's strings...
I've always thought that was a flaw with the PUA philosophy, a bit of hypocrisy if you will. It's still catering to women, just giving them what they want supposedly, as opposed to what they think they want.
Personally, I think the C&F stuff is overrated. I mean, yeah, you should have the social skills to be able to playful with people and bust on them without really hurting their feelings. But there used to be a wise poster here, Jophil (RIP), who used to say that C&F should be like seasoning on a dish - you just want a dash of it. You can't just go around spouting C&F statements all day, hoping to attract women, without sounding like a cartoon.Obsidian said:The PUA idolization of women is wrong, but a great deal of what they teach is still objectively good. For example, being ****y and funny is a good characteristic to have. Not only will it help you get women, but it will also help you socialize with other men. Most importantly, once you get comfortable with it, being ****y and funny can be fun.