You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
It absolutely is the man's job to lead.Some might say that what I'm saying is not really true and that it is a man's job to initiate and lead. But that is a form of chivalry, which has no place in an egalitarian society.
I agree with you , but he has a point about charging money to guys then traveling the world creating that lifestyleObsidian said:He says a lot of truth about women's immaturity. But he also offers some overly harsh criticism about seduction techniques. Ultimately, here is where he goes wrong:
It absolutely is the man's job to lead.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Zekko dropping gems again!zekko said:Certainly men should lead.
But I agree with the author about the first main flaw with the PUA philosophy. They say don't put women on the pedestal, but then they tell you to change your entire personality to attract them, become c0cky and funny because they like c0cky and funny, act like a jerk because they like jerks, learn how to pass all their sh!t tests, go out and say "hi" to 100 women, go club five nights a week and approach women for six years so you get good at it. I mean, damn, talk about being a puppet dancing on women's strings...
I've always thought that was a flaw with the PUA philosophy, a bit of hypocrisy if you will. It's still catering to women, just giving them what they want supposedly, as opposed to what they think they want.
Personally, I think the C&F stuff is overrated. I mean, yeah, you should have the social skills to be able to playful with people and bust on them without really hurting their feelings. But there used to be a wise poster here, Jophil (RIP), who used to say that C&F should be like seasoning on a dish - you just want a dash of it. You can't just go around spouting C&F statements all day, hoping to attract women, without sounding like a cartoon.Obsidian said:The PUA idolization of women is wrong, but a great deal of what they teach is still objectively good. For example, being ****y and funny is a good characteristic to have. Not only will it help you get women, but it will also help you socialize with other men. Most importantly, once you get comfortable with it, being ****y and funny can be fun.