Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It absolutely is the man's job to lead.Some might say that what I'm saying is not really true and that it is a man's job to initiate and lead. But that is a form of chivalry, which has no place in an egalitarian society.
I agree with you , but he has a point about charging money to guys then traveling the world creating that lifestyleObsidian said:He says a lot of truth about women's immaturity. But he also offers some overly harsh criticism about seduction techniques. Ultimately, here is where he goes wrong:
It absolutely is the man's job to lead.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Zekko dropping gems again!zekko said:Certainly men should lead.
But I agree with the author about the first main flaw with the PUA philosophy. They say don't put women on the pedestal, but then they tell you to change your entire personality to attract them, become c0cky and funny because they like c0cky and funny, act like a jerk because they like jerks, learn how to pass all their sh!t tests, go out and say "hi" to 100 women, go club five nights a week and approach women for six years so you get good at it. I mean, damn, talk about being a puppet dancing on women's strings...
I've always thought that was a flaw with the PUA philosophy, a bit of hypocrisy if you will. It's still catering to women, just giving them what they want supposedly, as opposed to what they think they want.
Personally, I think the C&F stuff is overrated. I mean, yeah, you should have the social skills to be able to playful with people and bust on them without really hurting their feelings. But there used to be a wise poster here, Jophil (RIP), who used to say that C&F should be like seasoning on a dish - you just want a dash of it. You can't just go around spouting C&F statements all day, hoping to attract women, without sounding like a cartoon.Obsidian said:The PUA idolization of women is wrong, but a great deal of what they teach is still objectively good. For example, being ****y and funny is a good characteristic to have. Not only will it help you get women, but it will also help you socialize with other men. Most importantly, once you get comfortable with it, being ****y and funny can be fun.