Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It absolutely is the man's job to lead.Some might say that what I'm saying is not really true and that it is a man's job to initiate and lead. But that is a form of chivalry, which has no place in an egalitarian society.
I agree with you , but he has a point about charging money to guys then traveling the world creating that lifestyleObsidian said:He says a lot of truth about women's immaturity. But he also offers some overly harsh criticism about seduction techniques. Ultimately, here is where he goes wrong:
It absolutely is the man's job to lead.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Zekko dropping gems again!zekko said:Certainly men should lead.
But I agree with the author about the first main flaw with the PUA philosophy. They say don't put women on the pedestal, but then they tell you to change your entire personality to attract them, become c0cky and funny because they like c0cky and funny, act like a jerk because they like jerks, learn how to pass all their sh!t tests, go out and say "hi" to 100 women, go club five nights a week and approach women for six years so you get good at it. I mean, damn, talk about being a puppet dancing on women's strings...
I've always thought that was a flaw with the PUA philosophy, a bit of hypocrisy if you will. It's still catering to women, just giving them what they want supposedly, as opposed to what they think they want.
Personally, I think the C&F stuff is overrated. I mean, yeah, you should have the social skills to be able to playful with people and bust on them without really hurting their feelings. But there used to be a wise poster here, Jophil (RIP), who used to say that C&F should be like seasoning on a dish - you just want a dash of it. You can't just go around spouting C&F statements all day, hoping to attract women, without sounding like a cartoon.Obsidian said:The PUA idolization of women is wrong, but a great deal of what they teach is still objectively good. For example, being ****y and funny is a good characteristic to have. Not only will it help you get women, but it will also help you socialize with other men. Most importantly, once you get comfortable with it, being ****y and funny can be fun.