"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is something that is rarely mentioned here, but I think might be one of the most important things there is. I can't tell you how many times I've seen very attractive girls with guys simply because they exist close to them.

The "trick" is that you need an actual reason to be there. For example, hot bartenders with their managers, etc.

This serves the purpose of the guy being able to JUST ACT NORMAL and not be assumed to be a "creep until proven otherwise" just for engaging a girl in conversation. It allows the girl to get to know the guy as a real person and in a real way.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This is something that is rarely mentioned here, but I think might be one of the most important things there is. I can't tell you how many times I've seen very attractive girls with guys simply because they exist close to them.

The "trick" is that you need an actual reason to be there. For example, hot bartenders with their managers, etc.

This serves the purpose of the guy being able to JUST ACT NORMAL and not be assumed to be a "creep until proven otherwise" just for engaging a girl in conversation. It allows the girl to get to know the guy as a real person and in a real way.

Yeah think its a massive factor. Plus works for me too, in terms of average/cute women can become more appealing when you;ve spent time around them, assuming you haven't let things slide into 'friend zone'.

Probably a reason OLD can be cr4p too, even if you get them out you have pretty much no idea of how you;re going to click in person.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When you figure out that the majority of attractive women have flaws it is like a freedom switch. All of a sudden you realize they are just as insecure as you used to be....When you find that and you can soothe it with some normal and non judgmental conversation, all of a sudden you have the power in your hands. This is why you have to lead and reassure her that she is that woman she was worried she couldn't be.
 
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