Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Proposal ideas?

Ragnarok

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Hi guys

I've been seeing this girl for a year in a long distance relationship and I want to ask her to marry me. The thing is, I want to do something original and new, not to do it in a resturaunt or whatever.

She's a big fan of friends, and I'd like to do it in a museum, filled with lillies and candles, but, assuming thats out of the question, does anyone have any ideas on how to make the proposal unique?

Cheers
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ricky

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I don't know but don't flame the guy over long distance.

Take any scenario, for instance a guy could date a hometown sweetheart for 10 years and she lives in the same town as him for that time, they get married, a few years later get a divorce.

Or take a guy that meets a girl on a cruise and 2 weeks later proposes. They stay married for 50 years.

The circumstances are unpredictable. It matters more how people evolve together.

I certainly haven't figured it out, my long distance girlfriend really ****ing broke my heart. All was well and she pulled the plug. Obviously alot of **** goes into that, but why flame people.

PEOPLE ARE GETTING TO BECOME MORE AND MORE OF AHOLES ON HERE. Do we really know the circumstances of this guys life? Quit ****ing being judgmental everyone. If you can't offer anything constructive than SHUT THE FVCK UP

(Not that what i offered was necessarily constructive either)
 

Ricky

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And notice the interesting Dichotomy.

One guy registered in 2002 has 10 posts, the guy registered this month has alot more.

Of course I have an absolute ****ing ton myself!
 

Deep Dish

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I knew the instant I read the title to this thread that Ragnarok would get flamed. I have seen the majority of the (male half) of a restaurant staff discreetly mock a guy while the guy was proposing to a woman in the restaurant, and it was a nice restaurant. Misogyny runs deep within many men.

I have always thought that proposing (or tying the knot) while skydiving would be funny and the ultimate of novelty, although the logistics have never been favorable. Proposing while snorkeling would also be novel, although with equally dismal logistics. I have two sisters who are both married, and for my younger sister her then-boyfriend arranged a complex plan whereby he suprised her with an airline trip to New York City under the guise of it being for her birthday, and he then during their trip he popped the question during one of those horse carriage rides through Central Park (or something along those lines.) The then-boyfriend considered proposing on the airline flight over to New York, having the pilot make a special announcement on the flight to set the moment, but for whatever reason he backed out of that idea.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Immaculate

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goddamn we have guys on here posting about proposal idea, and other guys who's fiancee just left them...
 
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