I was talking to this girl I knew from school online and she didn't seem too into me by the way she was responding. After a couple minutes I didn't feel like wasting any more time with her and simply told her "I hate to say it, but I don't think this is going anywhere, maybe we'll talk again sometime girl" And sure enough her exact response was "you should call me tommorrow". I was pretty shocked, I reject a hot girl and she tells me to call her, hmmm interesting. Obviously I'm not going to call her tommorrow, but instead the day after. To show her I play by my own rules. Just goes to show ya, have some fuking pride and it will be noticed by others. I am a novice DJ, but I thought this was a big step for me.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Proof that NEXTING will bring them back
- Thread starter AceyR6
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
BGMan
Master Don Juan
It's called the "Returning Fox" theory. And it's a well-known fact of life in the DJ's world.
Right now, I apparently have a Returning Fox on my hands too. Always "too busy" to go out on a second date with me (I've heard her friends talk about how she's such a workaholic), she's now been giving me lots of attention, courtesy of my blanking her repeatedly.
BGMan
Right now, I apparently have a Returning Fox on my hands too. Always "too busy" to go out on a second date with me (I've heard her friends talk about how she's such a workaholic), she's now been giving me lots of attention, courtesy of my blanking her repeatedly.
BGMan
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Don Juan
very interesting. does anyone else have any experiences with nexting a girl and having them start calling or come running?
Kev07
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eh the girls i nexted, stay nexted. maybe because i end up talking lots of smack behind their backs and they find out about it
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Boschy
Senior Don Juan
I once told a blind date off on the phone when she directed me to the wrong house on purpose as I went to pick her up for coffee. She was a nut case, yes, but when I blasted her and hung up, she called back about 10 times. I only answered the first two calls.
I really was pissed off, so I wasn't doing any kind of DJ shtick, but I remember that BS now as an example of what this thread is about. Have some balls and retain your dignity no matter what.
I really was pissed off, so I wasn't doing any kind of DJ shtick, but I remember that BS now as an example of what this thread is about. Have some balls and retain your dignity no matter what.
SamRi72
Don Juan
This is very reminiscent of the Art of Seduction's description of Coquette. They have periods of hot, where you think you're winning, and then they all of a sudden go cold and distant on you. This is a very powerful seductive technique that many women have mastered.
its actually referred to as many things; ACTIVE DISS-INTEREST, playing hard to get (old school), supply & demand-----cut the supply (make yourself scarce) and your value goes way up. It's a DJ parodox: women expect men to chase them but the moment you take interest the ANTI-ATTRACTION neurons begin to fire and the attraction on her end begins to dissolve. They want you to persue them but when they see evidence that you are, they know they have you. Pulling away, ending the chase, truncating further communications redirects the imbalance in your favor. Its a cat & mouse game.......tease a little and then pull back.
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Don Juan
i had my GF of 5 years walk out on me in kind of a nasty breakup from her end. inteerestingly enough there was/is no other guy involved. without getting into the symantecs of the situation (which i did on the other forum in one of my threads), i can say that i did 1/2 of what i was supposed to, and then after joining this forum i NEXTed her a$$ to kingdom come. i found another girl who is prettier. i let myself be seen out with her (which got back to the ex). i did NOT call the ex anymore and moved on, all within a few weeks of her leaving.
if this chic tries to come back crawling returning fox style, since i have been playing this game like a true DJ, and since she is BROKE and cant stand on her own feet - it is going to be the most amusing pehnomenon i have ever lay witness to in my entire life. i will surely keep you folks posted.
if this chic tries to come back crawling returning fox style, since i have been playing this game like a true DJ, and since she is BROKE and cant stand on her own feet - it is going to be the most amusing pehnomenon i have ever lay witness to in my entire life. i will surely keep you folks posted.
white sox bill
Senior Don Juan
Actually I was going to start a thread on my situation--in a nutshell:
*A long time ago I had a FB, great sex etc, she flaked went back to ex hubby
*After many months, I saw her in grocery store, invited her to my workplace
*We would make out and get touchy feely in my office
*I think I acted "too eager" in trying to get her back to my house for sex. She kept coming up w/excuses why she couldn't--no time, had to take kids to bball practice etc
*Now, 3 months later, still no sex from her
Next time I talk to her on phone, I will next her. Give her the LJBF's thing. Offer to line her up with my one of my friends. Tell her that I've lost interest due to her being aloof.
Will it get her horizontal guys?
PS-She still has ex issues, but not back w/him
*A long time ago I had a FB, great sex etc, she flaked went back to ex hubby
*After many months, I saw her in grocery store, invited her to my workplace
*We would make out and get touchy feely in my office
*I think I acted "too eager" in trying to get her back to my house for sex. She kept coming up w/excuses why she couldn't--no time, had to take kids to bball practice etc
*Now, 3 months later, still no sex from her
Next time I talk to her on phone, I will next her. Give her the LJBF's thing. Offer to line her up with my one of my friends. Tell her that I've lost interest due to her being aloof.
Will it get her horizontal guys?
PS-She still has ex issues, but not back w/him
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Exactly.Luke!! said:Well your returning fox only returns to get the satisfaction out of you, affirm that they could still get you. They will come back and act like they want you, but in reality it just to grab the ounce of self confidence you stole from them back.
The best way for a girl to keep getting attention from guys...is to kawktease them and make them think that they ALLLMOOOSTTTT are JUUUSSSTTTT about to get some puzzy from them. :crackup:
You gotta admit, most guys these days are about as stupid as donkeys...ya YA! Seriously, it's like dangling a toy in front of a cat - and watching it swipe for it over and over and...over.
white sox bill
Senior Don Juan
So guys is the name of this game "You always want what you can't have?"