I was talking to this girl I knew from school online and she didn't seem too into me by the way she was responding. After a couple minutes I didn't feel like wasting any more time with her and simply told her "I hate to say it, but I don't think this is going anywhere, maybe we'll talk again sometime girl" And sure enough her exact response was "you should call me tommorrow". I was pretty shocked, I reject a hot girl and she tells me to call her, hmmm interesting. Obviously I'm not going to call her tommorrow, but instead the day after. To show her I play by my own rules. Just goes to show ya, have some fuking pride and it will be noticed by others. I am a novice DJ, but I thought this was a big step for me.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Proof that NEXTING will bring them back
- Thread starter AceyR6
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
BGMan
Master Don Juan
It's called the "Returning Fox" theory. And it's a well-known fact of life in the DJ's world.
Right now, I apparently have a Returning Fox on my hands too. Always "too busy" to go out on a second date with me (I've heard her friends talk about how she's such a workaholic), she's now been giving me lots of attention, courtesy of my blanking her repeatedly.
BGMan
Right now, I apparently have a Returning Fox on my hands too. Always "too busy" to go out on a second date with me (I've heard her friends talk about how she's such a workaholic), she's now been giving me lots of attention, courtesy of my blanking her repeatedly.
BGMan
docv
Don Juan
very interesting. does anyone else have any experiences with nexting a girl and having them start calling or come running?
Kev07
Master Don Juan
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eh the girls i nexted, stay nexted. maybe because i end up talking lots of smack behind their backs and they find out about it
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Boschy
Senior Don Juan
I once told a blind date off on the phone when she directed me to the wrong house on purpose as I went to pick her up for coffee. She was a nut case, yes, but when I blasted her and hung up, she called back about 10 times. I only answered the first two calls.
I really was pissed off, so I wasn't doing any kind of DJ shtick, but I remember that BS now as an example of what this thread is about. Have some balls and retain your dignity no matter what.
I really was pissed off, so I wasn't doing any kind of DJ shtick, but I remember that BS now as an example of what this thread is about. Have some balls and retain your dignity no matter what.
SamRi72
Don Juan
This is very reminiscent of the Art of Seduction's description of Coquette. They have periods of hot, where you think you're winning, and then they all of a sudden go cold and distant on you. This is a very powerful seductive technique that many women have mastered.
its actually referred to as many things; ACTIVE DISS-INTEREST, playing hard to get (old school), supply & demand-----cut the supply (make yourself scarce) and your value goes way up. It's a DJ parodox: women expect men to chase them but the moment you take interest the ANTI-ATTRACTION neurons begin to fire and the attraction on her end begins to dissolve. They want you to persue them but when they see evidence that you are, they know they have you. Pulling away, ending the chase, truncating further communications redirects the imbalance in your favor. Its a cat & mouse game.......tease a little and then pull back.
docv
Don Juan
i had my GF of 5 years walk out on me in kind of a nasty breakup from her end. inteerestingly enough there was/is no other guy involved. without getting into the symantecs of the situation (which i did on the other forum in one of my threads), i can say that i did 1/2 of what i was supposed to, and then after joining this forum i NEXTed her a$$ to kingdom come. i found another girl who is prettier. i let myself be seen out with her (which got back to the ex). i did NOT call the ex anymore and moved on, all within a few weeks of her leaving.
if this chic tries to come back crawling returning fox style, since i have been playing this game like a true DJ, and since she is BROKE and cant stand on her own feet - it is going to be the most amusing pehnomenon i have ever lay witness to in my entire life. i will surely keep you folks posted.
if this chic tries to come back crawling returning fox style, since i have been playing this game like a true DJ, and since she is BROKE and cant stand on her own feet - it is going to be the most amusing pehnomenon i have ever lay witness to in my entire life. i will surely keep you folks posted.
white sox bill
Senior Don Juan
Actually I was going to start a thread on my situation--in a nutshell:
*A long time ago I had a FB, great sex etc, she flaked went back to ex hubby
*After many months, I saw her in grocery store, invited her to my workplace
*We would make out and get touchy feely in my office
*I think I acted "too eager" in trying to get her back to my house for sex. She kept coming up w/excuses why she couldn't--no time, had to take kids to bball practice etc
*Now, 3 months later, still no sex from her
Next time I talk to her on phone, I will next her. Give her the LJBF's thing. Offer to line her up with my one of my friends. Tell her that I've lost interest due to her being aloof.
Will it get her horizontal guys?
PS-She still has ex issues, but not back w/him
*A long time ago I had a FB, great sex etc, she flaked went back to ex hubby
*After many months, I saw her in grocery store, invited her to my workplace
*We would make out and get touchy feely in my office
*I think I acted "too eager" in trying to get her back to my house for sex. She kept coming up w/excuses why she couldn't--no time, had to take kids to bball practice etc
*Now, 3 months later, still no sex from her
Next time I talk to her on phone, I will next her. Give her the LJBF's thing. Offer to line her up with my one of my friends. Tell her that I've lost interest due to her being aloof.
Will it get her horizontal guys?
PS-She still has ex issues, but not back w/him
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Exactly.Luke!! said:Well your returning fox only returns to get the satisfaction out of you, affirm that they could still get you. They will come back and act like they want you, but in reality it just to grab the ounce of self confidence you stole from them back.
The best way for a girl to keep getting attention from guys...is to kawktease them and make them think that they ALLLMOOOSTTTT are JUUUSSSTTTT about to get some puzzy from them. :crackup:
You gotta admit, most guys these days are about as stupid as donkeys...ya YA! Seriously, it's like dangling a toy in front of a cat - and watching it swipe for it over and over and...over.
white sox bill
Senior Don Juan
So guys is the name of this game "You always want what you can't have?"