"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Prom --> New girl

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I asked a girl I fancied to prom a month ago, but she gave me a lame excuse...something about not being able to get a dress she liked.

Recently, I found out through her best friend that she is now going to prom, but I have not heard this from her, which pretty much sets in stone the fact that she rejected me (apparently she wants to go alone and w/o a date).

But I am past that.

The thing is, do you guys think asking her best friend to prom is a good idea? I know her best friend is looking for a date and is single.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bump. c'mon guys, this is kinda urgent. I am going out this evening.
 
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hahaha that would be the perfect thing to do to get back at that girl. it would be a slap in the face. definatley ask her friend to prom assuming shes higher than a 6/10
 
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yeah the original girl is a HB 8.5 or so, and her friend is a HB7. I'm not doing this with the intention of "getting back" at her, but really I want a date and I'm going to ask her friend because a lot of other girls are taken already.

I'm gonna ask and i'll let you guys know how it goes. :up: (unless there are any objections)
 
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Alright guys, I got back. This is how the convo went. We met at Starbucks:

Me: hey, you got here fast
Her: yeah...
Me: wow you seem really excited...(sarcasm)
Her: yeah..
chit chat chit chat for a few minutes
Me: so you wanna go to prom with me?
Her: um...well...
Me: well....
Her: basically I can't go with you because I'm already going with :blank: and I don't want to betray my friend.
Me: alright that's cool. I hope you have fun with :blank:.

then I went back to talking but it was awkward as hell...yea...

Strike 2 for me :(

I didn't ask who she was going with. She just said someone, and I didn't ask why it would mess things up with her friend, but you know, gotta cut my losses and move on right?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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that sucks man. sounds like she didnt want to go with u cause her friend didnt want to. NEXT them both. hopefully you can find someone who appreciates you more than those two *****es. keep looking man. stay up.
 
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alright, so should I still go to prom? I don't feel much like going anymore. What do yall think...I could use that 100 dollars for something else.
 
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