goldenrocker91
Don Juan
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haha blacks dance so differnely from whites in my school. i swear my school dances are practically segregated with the black kids on one side and the whites on the other lol
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That's the way to goVice said:haha wow
I'm in High School and I never even THOUGHT of asking a girl out in a "cute" way, I was just planning on flat out asking
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thanksgoldenrocker91 said:i doubt youll have a problem. slow dancing is easier then normal dancing. Just put you hands on her hips and take like little steps back and forth
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I think you can go ahead and ask now....make sure you ask at the latest in the first couple weeks of May.Colin O'Brien said:My prom is on june 7th.. when's the earliest/latest I can ask someone to go with me?
How was your prom? What was it like?franchise21 said:my prom is tommorrow...im a sophomore and got elected head server which basically means i just get to be the first car and first people out....its like they elected me and this chick special priveliges to go...the BS part is the girl is ugly.....so im stuck with an ugly "sort of" date...whom i will take but really just leave once i get in...and what sucks is that other hot girls will haev dates from other towns who will be all over them...leaving me...all alone...how jewish is that?? oh well, at least i get to wear a tux and look like james bond...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
theborn_athlete said:Well my prom is the 2nd Saturday into June and I've got a date, but I'm not happy about it.
My prom date is easily the hottest girl in the school. No questions asked. Doesn't matter who you ask; she's the one.
The pictures I get from prom would be HUGE social proof for University next year. Having 30 picks on facebook with an HB9 hanging off my neck would be awesome.
The problem?
She has a boyfriend.
Her boyfriend is 21 so obviously he isn't going to go to prom. Back in 2nd year we had a little thing and I promised her we would go to prom together. So here we are 2 years later and we were just discussing it the other day. Shes set on going with me. I know her boyfriend, he's a pushover and won't mind at all so that's not a problem.
The problem with going with her, is that it would be awkward. Are we friends or dates? Do we hold hands etc? It'd just be weird. Now I know that she isn't happy with her boyfriend, but knowing the guy I would feel like a scum bag hooking up with her. (Not that I wouldn't still do it) This whole situation is brutal because I can think of atleast 4 girls off the top of my head who would love to go with me and who I would definately hook up with. My oneitis has really been hinting at it over the last couple weeks, as well as one other girl that I have been seeing.
So guys what would you suggest I do about this situatioN?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.