"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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soothsayerac

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hey everyone!

I'm hoping to get some advice on my situation.

I've know / dated this girl for about 8 months. she has always told me things about her past boyfriends, and things she likes and dislikes. I seem to have trouble telling the difference between things she says. an example would be.. she says she doesn't like when guys compliment her. I thought she wouldn't appreciate me doing so either.. but recently I told her why I don't give her many.. she said it's cool if it's from someone she likes ..

at the beginning, she would her pull me close and seem affectionate .. I kissed her about 3weeks of knowing her. she said she was elated from it the next day. she also says she doesn't always feel like hugging or kissing. That has made me iffy about going for another kiss. it could just be me over thinking her words about not feeling in a hugging mood or whatever, but she still initiates hugs, and grabs my hand sometimes.
I got a kiss a week ago, but can't tell when she would be cool with me going for more lol.




She is always working because she started her own business and has a quota.
I guess a mistake I made was to offer to help her or go along with her while she works. I figured it was a good way to spend time with her without taking away from her main goal, which is to be successful and progress with her work.

I don't like to give anyone that much control, but I have dated many women and her good qualities and potential makes dropping her and moving on feel like a dumb move.

when we are asked how long we have been together, she responds we are friends, but has told me we are dating.
Do I have to propose to her to seem commited enough to be her bf?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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soothsayerac

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yeah, I have been thinking that lately so I've been putting my own activities in order. I see her drive and motivation, and it makes me think relaxing at home or doing unimportant things seem like a waste.

I give her space for a few days and she ends up calling to ask if she can come over to hangout so I don't really think she is in it for me to help her with work.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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