"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hey everyone!

I'm hoping to get some advice on my situation.

I've know / dated this girl for about 8 months. she has always told me things about her past boyfriends, and things she likes and dislikes. I seem to have trouble telling the difference between things she says. an example would be.. she says she doesn't like when guys compliment her. I thought she wouldn't appreciate me doing so either.. but recently I told her why I don't give her many.. she said it's cool if it's from someone she likes ..

at the beginning, she would her pull me close and seem affectionate .. I kissed her about 3weeks of knowing her. she said she was elated from it the next day. she also says she doesn't always feel like hugging or kissing. That has made me iffy about going for another kiss. it could just be me over thinking her words about not feeling in a hugging mood or whatever, but she still initiates hugs, and grabs my hand sometimes.
I got a kiss a week ago, but can't tell when she would be cool with me going for more lol.




She is always working because she started her own business and has a quota.
I guess a mistake I made was to offer to help her or go along with her while she works. I figured it was a good way to spend time with her without taking away from her main goal, which is to be successful and progress with her work.

I don't like to give anyone that much control, but I have dated many women and her good qualities and potential makes dropping her and moving on feel like a dumb move.

when we are asked how long we have been together, she responds we are friends, but has told me we are dating.
Do I have to propose to her to seem commited enough to be her bf?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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yeah, I have been thinking that lately so I've been putting my own activities in order. I see her drive and motivation, and it makes me think relaxing at home or doing unimportant things seem like a waste.

I give her space for a few days and she ends up calling to ask if she can come over to hangout so I don't really think she is in it for me to help her with work.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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