"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Problems in Bed

DJ#7436

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So i've been dating this girl for around 3 months now and I've never been able to make her orgasm. I'm pretty sure i'm 100% at getting girls to finish, during relationships, but haven't been able to do it after countless times now with her. I always attempt to be receptive and aware of any signs she puts out of which moves to make. I've briefly mentioned how surprised that i couldn't get her to finish a couple times but tonight she claims she has never come before, ever. She's 23 and been with lots of guys before me. I asked her before if she's had a history of molestation or rape and she hasn't. She doesn't seem to be in any pain and seems to be enjoying herself during the act. I've asked her if she masturbates and she said she does from time to time, but still never is able to finish.

Any ideas or input on this?

Dave
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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foomee

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some girls need to be 100% comfortable in order to orgasm. she needs to feel much more than just physical stimulation. at the beginning try as much foreplay as you can. touch her everywhere, kiss her in new places like her neck, stomach, legs, everywhere.

try to set the mood, dim the lights. some girls are self conscious so turning off the lights may help. and when you're banging her, give her compliments, but be specific. you can't just say you have great tits, but try to use bigger, more descriptive words that focus on one part of her body. just try to make her feel amazing.

and try to persuade her to touch herself while you're going at it. a lot of girls can do it themselves, but when you're going at it and she's touching herself and the same time, she might be able to orgasm faster and easier.
 

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Dear DJ,
What about putting your age up?....Yours is a common phenomena,it can crop up up any time in a relationship....my philosophy is that getting them to open their legs is a good start,getting them to enjoy can be asking too much...seriously,she is just entertainment value,you can't improve a Woman like that,but in the absense of anything better,it's any port in a storm.
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear DJ,
seriously,she is just entertainment value,you can't improve a Woman like that,but in the absense of anything better,it's any port in a storm.
Can you explain that a little further?

Dave
 

DJ#7436

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foomee said:
some girls need to be 100% comfortable in order to orgasm. she needs to feel much more than just physical stimulation. at the beginning try as much foreplay as you can. touch her everywhere, kiss her in new places like her neck, stomach, legs, everywhere.

try to set the mood, dim the lights. some girls are self conscious so turning off the lights may help. and when you're banging her, give her compliments, but be specific. you can't just say you have great tits, but try to use bigger, more descriptive words that focus on one part of her body. just try to make her feel amazing.

and try to persuade her to touch herself while you're going at it. a lot of girls can do it themselves, but when you're going at it and she's touching herself and the same time, she might be able to orgasm faster and easier.
Will try to improve on setting the mood, i've done the candles thing early on but will keep trying, same thing with the emotional stimulation.

Dave
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DJ#7436 said:
I asked her before if she's had a history of molestation or rape and she hasn't.
You are definitely a smooth talker...:confused:
 
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