"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Problem with sneakers

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Here's the story...

Last Christmas, I received a pair of awesome sneakers from my parents. I was thrilled with these shoes and apperantly so was everyone else. It became impossible for me to go out without someone being baffled by these shoes. Girls seem to be especially fond of them and always approach me. There have been several occasions where it is obvious they are less interested in the shoes than the boy that's wearing them.

The trouble is, I can't muster a decent response to 'ohmygod those shoes are amazing' and wind up saying something stupid like 'thanks' and I let the chance slip through my fingers.

What should I do next time some hottie inevitably compliments my kicks?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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chubbycheeks720

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There are lots of ways, it depends on how you want to be perceived by other people.

If you want to be C&F go with a ****y comment like "thanks, they looked good on the site but they looked even better on me, but then again what doesn't?"

If you want to come off as friendly funny, someone all the girls can talk to.
"thanks, do you want to touch them?" - "How bout a picture?"

There's lots of ways to respond and different responses get different reactions, of course. It all depends on how you want other people to see you.
 
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Tekniq

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Chill out hypebeast, and just say thank you, cut all the crap because if you are receiving compliments then they are obviously interested in some aspect. I like collecting dunks as well, but i guess i am used to the "omg awesome shoes"
 

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I appreciate the help guys, but I don't think I made it clear in the first post I was looking for a response that would initiate conversation.

Often I do say 'thanks' and we part ways because I have nothing else to offer. I need a proper segway into an actual conversation.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Oh, I love it when I can start a conversation on sneakers. It's easy to get a girls attention(they all love shoes) and it feels very natural for me to talk about. Read up on sneakers, find out whats special about your sneakers(if there is anything special about them that is)

It is hard however to start a conversation based on simply "Nice shoes!"
But a typical response for me could be "Thanks, there part of adidas's new consortium collection" if they wanna know more I have a conversation going on just that, if not then oh well I still got complimented on my shoes ;)

Chubbycheeks's responses could also work pretty well. You gotta judge it when the situation comes, if you see that the girls are wearing flashy sneakers they are probably interested in talking about it. If not, chubbys replies can be pretty nice "openers".
 

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you can say "thanks" thats completely fine. I do it sometimes when a girl compliments me. The thing you want to do is thread into a DHV story, neg her or shoot sh*t.

tell a story about how you got these shoes

neg her about her clothing. Most girls these days wear the brand names like hollister or abercrombie, so its easy.

Her: nice shoes
You: (canned joke)
Her: haha
You: I like your abercrombie jacket, yea i saw the same jacket 10 times when i was walking to class today, that must be a nice jacket.

shoot sh*t. Talk about what clothes she likes while making negs or jokes.

situations differ so she might not be wearing a jacket or have the same brand.
so you have to analyze the situation and think fast, but as you get better it will come naturally. I dont even think about it and i already have a canned neg or joke coming out of my mouth.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tell them "thanks. Can you help me with something? I'm trying to come up with another style for Chris Brown to rip off of me. Got any ideas on what would look good?"

Start a conversation and show that you read stuff.
 

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Number9 said:
They're gold supra skytops.
Can you say Hypebeast?
Might as well get yourself a pair of tiffany dunks and get it over with, or a pair of paris lows, personally i am quite fond of the channel zero customs, and all the **** by methamphibian.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tekniq said:
Can you say Hypebeast?
Might as well get yourself a pair of tiffany dunks and get it over with, or a pair of paris lows, personally i am quite fond of the channel zero customs, and all the **** by methamphibian.
why do you keep on pushing this whole "hypebeast" b.s.?

It's not even helping the guy.

But Kudos to you for using the word you most recently found on urbandictionary.com
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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