"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Previous FWB still coming in and out

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PREFACE: About a month ago, things came to an end, because she met someone else -- slept with her one last time. Probably went... 5/6 days without talking to her this past week (due to new interest, texting someone)

We ended up having a conversation last night and found out that the reason she invited me over was due to being 'lonely' but said that she didn't want to sleep with two guys at once and that "this felt like this right thing to do" in terms of finding someone with mutual interests. She told me that we'd never work out/could never date.

So I asked about the new guy and she was like "It's good but, it's just... I want to avoid relationships as a whole" -- she said that if she could she'd just sleep around. Then she said "Believe me, if I had it my way, you'd be over here right now and we'd be sleeping together still" -- this new guy had been asking her to dinner with his parents, etc -- and she's already saying "No, I don't want that" -- seems to me this guy attempting to rush a bit.

I mentioned that I started seeing someone and she seemed genuinely happily surprised (like a happy shocked), wanted to know all about her but told her "I'm not going to tell you anything more about her" (I've been seeing someone and went out with her last night) then changed the topic.

We ended up talking to 2:30, about life in general and such, it was a legit conversation and felt pretty genuine, but I'm thinking of the plate theory, while this other gentleman is trying to push heavily into the relationship 'theatrics' it seems she's not having it slightly and seems to be gravitating back my way, as in something new isn't probably as exciting as the something old -- more so now that I've found someone, women tend to have a 'sixth sense' knowing that you're either about to move on or are moving on.

Remember that Coach Corey Wayne says women are like cats, they lose interest and then wander the neighborhood, but forget about them and they tend to come back.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So this girl is no longer having sex with you, correct? But she talks to you? Is she trying to turn you into an orbiter??
 

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I'm thinking of the plate theory, while this other gentleman is trying to push heavily into the relationship 'theatrics' it seems she's not having it slightly and seems to be gravitating back my way, as in something new isn't probably as exciting as the something old -- more so now that I've found someone, women tend to have a 'sixth sense' knowing that you're either about to move on or are moving on.
If that's true then become less available (make her work for your time/attention)- that will usually make them want you more but you have to be patient.

But yeah, my experience is the same with past women, they just somehow know when you're dating someone else. I could go no-contact for a while after the breakup but they wouldn't show up but as soon as I find someone else they magically reappear.
 

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So this girl is no longer having sex with you, correct? But she talks to you? Is she trying to turn you into an orbiter??
Most FWB's don't last long and I found that out, I suppose we're just trying friendship out currently, but as I mentioned, the moment I started seeing someone she magically reappeared...

I plan on cutting off all communication this weekend, basically disappearing.
 

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But yeah, my experience is the same with past women, they just somehow know when you're dating someone else. I could go no-contact for a while after the breakup but they wouldn't show up but as soon as I find someone else they magically reappear.
they probably keep tabs on you
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Slight update, girl texted me out of the blue Sunday night (after a weekend of no communication)

"How are you"

And then proceeded to say things like "How's your Bumble girl?" (Wanted to know more about her) Then I asked her about her new 'guy'
 

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Corey Wayne, IMO, is a relationship hunter. Based on previous experience, that doesnt work long term in a guy's favor. He pushes more of a beta provider role to find women. Not my style.

There are much better ways to get what you want.

On a side note, never ask a chick about some guy or other guy she is seeing. If she brings it up, just say "cool". You really need to get a handle on the IDGAF mentality.
 
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