"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pretty confused about what to do.

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Hmmm.. what to do when the girl tells you that she's interested in you, but.. she's confused and not sure because
A) Just met her about a month ago
B) And something about a long lost love.

It's not that I want to be with her, i mean its pretty messed up already about this long lost love, i just don't want things to be wierd between her and I. So should I just pretend as if she said absolutely nothing and continue to just be friends with her? or should I just walk away and just never speak to her again? I mean it seems like this girl is interested in me at the moment, but there's just too much crap in the way, and should I attempt to pursue her how would I go abouts doing it after this has happened?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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she is not interested, she wants to be interested in the long lost love and leave you on the back burner for when he doesnt like her anymore .
 
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I really don't understand what yours saying with the whole long lost love thing.

I would say that don't let outside events disablize you and don't let what other people say phase you.

I don't really see a big issue between you and this girl. The thing is your making an issue out of what she said.

Just be cool and proceed with her the way you want to. I mean its your life, nobody knows the situation better than you bro.
 
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Originally posted by arcilitei34
I'm really aware of that anyways, I just want to be friends and make sure thing's dont get wierd.
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eventually things always get weird
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by arcilitei34
but.. she's confused and not sure
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i just don't want things to be wierd between her and I.
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There is no time when a girl is NOT confused/unsure about her love life. This is her REGULAR state of emotion. It's partly out of the fact that girls love anticipation. They'll make up the worst (and somethimes the best) bullsh!t you've ever heard just to keep the anticipation and tension going. Just go with it.

And things are only weird if you percieve and treat them that way. Keep control of your reality and be cool.

everythings alright, just have fun.
 
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