Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pretty confused about what to do.

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Hmmm.. what to do when the girl tells you that she's interested in you, but.. she's confused and not sure because
A) Just met her about a month ago
B) And something about a long lost love.

It's not that I want to be with her, i mean its pretty messed up already about this long lost love, i just don't want things to be wierd between her and I. So should I just pretend as if she said absolutely nothing and continue to just be friends with her? or should I just walk away and just never speak to her again? I mean it seems like this girl is interested in me at the moment, but there's just too much crap in the way, and should I attempt to pursue her how would I go abouts doing it after this has happened?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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she is not interested, she wants to be interested in the long lost love and leave you on the back burner for when he doesnt like her anymore .
 

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I really don't understand what yours saying with the whole long lost love thing.

I would say that don't let outside events disablize you and don't let what other people say phase you.

I don't really see a big issue between you and this girl. The thing is your making an issue out of what she said.

Just be cool and proceed with her the way you want to. I mean its your life, nobody knows the situation better than you bro.
 

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Originally posted by arcilitei34
I'm really aware of that anyways, I just want to be friends and make sure thing's dont get wierd.
eventually things always get weird
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by arcilitei34
but.. she's confused and not sure
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i just don't want things to be wierd between her and I.
There is no time when a girl is NOT confused/unsure about her love life. This is her REGULAR state of emotion. It's partly out of the fact that girls love anticipation. They'll make up the worst (and somethimes the best) bullsh!t you've ever heard just to keep the anticipation and tension going. Just go with it.

And things are only weird if you percieve and treat them that way. Keep control of your reality and be cool.

everythings alright, just have fun.
 
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