"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Pretty confused about what to do.

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Hmmm.. what to do when the girl tells you that she's interested in you, but.. she's confused and not sure because
A) Just met her about a month ago
B) And something about a long lost love.

It's not that I want to be with her, i mean its pretty messed up already about this long lost love, i just don't want things to be wierd between her and I. So should I just pretend as if she said absolutely nothing and continue to just be friends with her? or should I just walk away and just never speak to her again? I mean it seems like this girl is interested in me at the moment, but there's just too much crap in the way, and should I attempt to pursue her how would I go abouts doing it after this has happened?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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she is not interested, she wants to be interested in the long lost love and leave you on the back burner for when he doesnt like her anymore .
 
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I really don't understand what yours saying with the whole long lost love thing.

I would say that don't let outside events disablize you and don't let what other people say phase you.

I don't really see a big issue between you and this girl. The thing is your making an issue out of what she said.

Just be cool and proceed with her the way you want to. I mean its your life, nobody knows the situation better than you bro.
 
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Originally posted by arcilitei34
I'm really aware of that anyways, I just want to be friends and make sure thing's dont get wierd.
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eventually things always get weird
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by arcilitei34
but.. she's confused and not sure
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i just don't want things to be wierd between her and I.
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There is no time when a girl is NOT confused/unsure about her love life. This is her REGULAR state of emotion. It's partly out of the fact that girls love anticipation. They'll make up the worst (and somethimes the best) bullsh!t you've ever heard just to keep the anticipation and tension going. Just go with it.

And things are only weird if you percieve and treat them that way. Keep control of your reality and be cool.

everythings alright, just have fun.
 
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