"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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you re scared of approaching women scared of what they might to you
do the ALBERT ELLIS SHAME EXERCICES I DID AND I BUSTED MY FEAR OF WOMEN FOR EVER

Imagine being in the elvator and calling the numbers out loud

on the street PRETEND YOU VE JUST BEEN RELEASED FROM THE LOONY BIN
' sorry sir i ve been released from the mental home could you tell me what day it is?
DO IT WITH 5 DIFFERENT PEOPLE EACH DAY FOR 2 WEEKS


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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Are you retarded??

ALPHAROMEO said:
you re scared of approaching women scared of what they might to you
do the ALBERT ELLIS SHAME EXERCICES I DID AND I BUSTED MY FEAR OF WOMEN FOR EVER

Imagine being in the elvator and calling the numbers out loud

on the street PRETEND YOU VE JUST BEEN RELEASED FROM THE LOONY BIN
' sorry sir i ve been released from the mental home could you tell me what day it is?
DO IT WITH 5 DIFFERENT PEOPLE EACH DAY FOR 2 WEEKS


Check out ALBERT ELLIS shame exercises on GOOGLE
seriously dude What the **** is wrong with you..anybody who actually believes this bull**** exercise will work deserves to be in the mental home. Are you ****ing insanse?? you continoulsy pollute this forum with your pseudo pshysology bull****.are you a troll or just a moron?What is your end game here? You create thread after thread spweing the same vile bullcrap under the guise of pyhsocology. You created a thread in the mature men forum and you didnt even have the decency much less the balls to come defend yourself after i called you out on your POS post. DUDE IF YOU DONT HAVE CONSTRUCTIVE ADVICE TO OFFER THE GUYS ON THIS FORUM, DO EVERYONE A FAVOUR AND STFU
if you want to get rid of your approach anxiety u do that by interacting with people like a rational human being. you do this by making small talk with everybody u meet. talk about the weather, talk abt sports, politics anything. Acting like a nutcase is counterproductive and only serve to repel people from you, worse case senario you get security called on you. what do u think will happen to someone with approach aniety who get the cops called on him for acting like an idiot
 

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ALPHAROMEO said:
you re scared of approaching women scared of what they might to you
do the ALBERT ELLIS SHAME EXERCICES I DID AND I BUSTED MY FEAR OF WOMEN FOR EVER

Imagine being in the elvator and calling the numbers out loud

on the street PRETEND YOU VE JUST BEEN RELEASED FROM THE LOONY BIN
' sorry sir i ve been released from the mental home could you tell me what day it is?
DO IT WITH 5 DIFFERENT PEOPLE EACH DAY FOR 2 WEEKS


Check out ALBERT ELLIS shame exercises on GOOGLE

You are my favorite poster on SS, don't ever change!
 

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And some people don't need to pretend.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've heard of these exercises, they are supposed to be a way to get rid of social anxiety. The idea is if you can go out and do all these outlandish things without getting embarassed, you've been desensitized enough that you won't be afraid of approaching or normal social situations. It's not that different from going out and collecting 100 rejections really.

I think RSD may even have used some variations on this idea.
 

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cognitive psychology ( albert ellis aaron beck mart seligman ) has all the answers to picking up women

ELLIS S FAMOUS BOOK " the modern man " talks about using the street as the best pick up environnement how yo bust fear etc

the book was written in 1964 20 YEARS BEFORE ross jeffreys started raving about pick up
 
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